When Good Men Go ‘Bad’

Earlier today a co-worker, ER, sidled up to me with his android phone in his hand.

“Wanna see the latest one?” He says with a small smirk.

“Sure!” I said with a smile.

He plays with his phone and then shows me the Facebook page of a very cute woman, I’d peg her as a 7. He seems somewhat enthused about her, as he described her attributes, but not overly so, he didn’t overdo it, then again he never does…anymore. See ER always gets this way when he first meets a girl, he has high standards, and as soon as a girl p!sses him off, he bounces because he simply doesn’t have the patience to deal with it. Moreover, he knows one more thing; he doesn’t HAVE to deal with it.

ER wasn’t always this way, trust me on this one.

See, about 5 years ago when ER first joined the company, he was a very geeky twenty something who was horrifically beta in every way. Don’t worry, even he would call himself a geek, but he is a lot more confident when he says it now. He did posses some alpha traits in that despite his thin stature, he had taken strict martial arts training when younger and is a very mean fighter, but you would have to pull that information out of him like a dentist pulls teeth. He doesn’t brag about that sort of thing, which makes you wonder just how dangerous he really is. Well, years ago he caught his serious girlfriend cheating on him, literally walked in on it (not physical, yet) and broke up with her but sadly had gone from the frying pan straight into the fire soon after! His rebound put him through a vicious roller coaster and sadly, during a point in his life where he would have sorely needed some support.

Let’s just say that ER and I have had many talks about his sitch over the years and that dude was tested by some very serious infernos.

Well, to be honest, after he let this three alarm fire he called a girlfriend go, something about him had changed drastically. He had told me that he simply no longer cared, that he used to live to make women happy, and now he honestly didn’t give a flying sh!t any longer, now it was about him. All of a sudden, ER went from being in a monogamous relationship and being treated like crap, to showing me pictures of various women he was dating, and MANY of them too. Let’s just say that this greater beta has embraced his inner alpha and it has done wonders for the guy.

Let me tell you this bit of information; just like my former manager I spoke of (who has moved on to greener pastures with a better position outside my company) he has never spent ANY time on an MRA site, but he grasps the contemporary male situation VERY well regardless. We’ve had many discussions on the topic of women and relationships and you’d think he’d poured over virtually every site on the Manosphere with the level of information he has. Don’t get me wrong, when he’s in a committed relationship, he’s faithful through and through, but when he isn’t, you are nothing but a notch on his belt UNLESS you prove otherwise.

Actually, I should restate that; you are nothing but a notch but he will keep you there with the chance of becoming more UNLESS you prove that you are unworthy. You should see how many have been unworthy; like I said he has high standards and realizes that this is HIS game.

The bottom line, the crap that he would have gladly accepted years ago, doesn’t even register on his radar now. In truth, his dating life reads like something out of the Manosphere’s dos and don’ts for women. Women giving it up too early and begging him to come back the night after, older women chasing after him like an addict for their next fix and it goes on and on. He’s a young man in his early 30’s who has had women indirectly show him just how powerful he really is in the dating market, and now he is taking advantage of it. He was the sort of guy who lived to make a woman happy, now he goes through them with an attitude similar to a manager at a job interview. He wasn’t like this before ladies; guess who made him that way?

Consider that the next time you lament over where "The Nice Guys Have Gone." They're still there honey, they just changed their approach.

Omnipitron

Mamma Mia!!!

C/O Mammia Mia movie.com

Just spending a great day this New Year with Mrs. Omni when 'Mamma Mia!' just happened to showing on the bube tube. Now, years ago she was an ABBA freak, so for Christmas about 9 years ago I took her to the play. We both went to see it and in truth it was quite the production. So of course, since the movie was about to start, I had high expectations for it.

For crying out loud, what an absolute load of Grrl Power tripe!!

Now, for the record I have to state that this was before I had heard of the Manosphere, and well before I had taken the vaunted Red Pill, so the very premise of Mamma Mia is very ridonkulous at the best of times. As an aside, don’t bother with the movie, it will make you want to hurl, the play is much better even if it’s not realistic in itself. The premise; single mom raises a girl on her own and she’s about to get married, she wants her father to be there, but since her mother was…‘well traveled’ her bio dad could be one of THREE different men (no, I sh!t you not!!). Since Sophie, our young ingénue, wishes to find her roots, she invites these men to her wedding under the guise of her mother thinking that none of them would show.

All three men arrive; and the hijinks, which result, make the grist of both the movie and the play.

This play was based on the music of ABBA (which is why I had taken Mrs. Omni in the first place) but I’d noticed some subtle changes in the big screen version and I expressed my disgust at seeing them. Listen, at first I was going to list all the issues I had with this ridiculous theatrical adaptation, but I then realized that would make me no better than the overly sensitive feminists that I like to deride. Simply put, I will say this, while the play is hard to stomach if you’ve woken up from the matrix, the movie will virtually have you running to the restroom. While in the play, the three possible fathers and even Sky, Sophie’s betrothed has at least an inkling of a backbone; Moxie was the name of the game in the movie, which had me shaking my head.

Yup, the whole “women rule, boys drool” sentiment is played up the the hilt as the men in the cast follow the women hook, line, and sinker while the big screen changes really had me shaking my head. Even to a point where Tanya Chesham-Leigh, (played by Christine Baranksi), one of Donna Sheridan’s (Meryl Streep) close friends leads the other women on the little Greek Island in a song and dance number which leaves all the young men on their backs, swooning over the ladies.

Cougar’s, you can’t underestimate their power and influence don’tcha know!!

For the record, you may want to take a gander at who the director and writer of the screenplay happen to be, just sayin. The ending of both the play and the movie comprises of all three men having no issue whatsoever claiming a 3^rd of the responsibility for Sophie (since Donna was too slutty ‘well traveled’ to actually know who the father was herself) and the marriage between Sky and Sophie placed on hold in the meantime. Donna ends up marrying Sam Carmichael (Pierce Brosnan) since he loved her for 21 years (that does happen of course), and her close friend  Rosie Mulligan actually ends up in a relationship. In the play Tanya lives up to cougardom by hunkering down with her cub, so all the loose ends are all conveniently tied off, but this isn't shown in the movie.

And I’m Frank Sinatra.

What a crock of sh!t c/o Wikipedia

What else is there to say that because of dreck like this in the Lamestream media, is it any wonder why women believe that they can stomp all over a man’s paternity, disregard a man’s sacrifice for their own selfish desires, still believe that they have ridiculous sexual power over men long after their own Wil E Coyote moment has passed and lastly, that no matter when they do, men will continue to be their lickspittle’s after the fact?

Omnipitron

Ugly Truths and Musical Chairs

C/O Wikipedia

Happy New Year everybody, here’s hoping that you had a great one with you and yours. I figured I start off with something a little meaty for 2012 with an article c/o Christian J at Women In Charge. Here’s the sitch…

Now, I don’t know Germaine Greer personally, nor am I familiar with her seminal feminists works, and neither do I wish to be. See, I have a theory about her situation that I doubt isn’t shared by other denizens of the Manosphere (double negative, uh oh, bad grammar!!!). See, at one point in time, she was a “Saucy Feminist that even men liked” but now she seems to be a surly older woman whose time has passed.

Not my words, just the words from the author of Christian J’s linked article.

C/O Daily Mail.UK

In my opinion as it appears to me, it seems that she thoroughly enjoyed her position when she was speaking about her particular brand of Feminism when she was attractive enough to garner male attention. She was considered ‘saucy’ when she could wear a bikini, and men where flocking to her like flies too honey. However, that seemed to change as Father Time caught up to her like he catches up to every other human being on this very planet. She had stated that her sex life was ‘over’ but she didn’t seem to lament the loss.

Really?

See, I believe that she didn’t figure that the large amount of attention she garnered on the regular would ever wane, similar to other females we have no doubt encountered in our lives and when the music finally stopped, she surprisingly found herself without a chair despite her Feminist leanings. So what does she have left? That’s the truly sad (or interesting) part of this situation, that the very ideology she subscribed too was the very thing which proved her undoing. The time WILL come to EVERY woman where the attention they garnered from men will vanish, and they will be left only with the consideration from the man they committed too years in their pasts.

If said women decided to forgo a relationship with such men, then chances are they will be left with no personal male attention at all.

What is left for women such as these?

Well, let me put it to you like this. From the years that I studied infidelity online, I have encountered a thought process, which I did find illuminating. You see, some people who cheat on their spouses and then leave for their affair patner may possibly admit their wrongdoing, but they don’t amount to many in reality. Some simply wanted out of the marriage no matter what. Others will actually REMAIN in the new situation with their affair partner, NEVER admitting that their situation placed them firmly out of the frying pan and directly into the fire.

You see, admitting their erroneous choice in partnership would also illuminate their initial wrongdoing, and for some, being right whether they be man or woman, is the brass ring they seek in this life.

After the glow of youth and beauty faded from the illustrious Germaine Greer, she has nothing left but to cling to her old feminist ideals as admitting to their failure would shine too much light on her own shortcomings and erroneous choices. The bottom line; I would bet money that she figured out exactly what it was that ‘patriarchy’ was trying to protect her and her ilk from and she did find out, only far too late. My personal note to Western Women; take her situation as an object lesson; once you reach her ‘status’ you CANNOT turn your track!!

Omnipitron.

Bittersweet Victory

C/O Metro Women's Soccer League

Let me take you back about 4 years ago when my stepdaughter still played soccer. Due to a scheduling conflict, the regular coach couldn’t make it to the next game so I was asked to sub in. I knew nothing about coaching other than when I wrestled in high school and virtually nothing about soccer other than playground games I participated in. Luckily, my stepson had played before and he decided to help me out. So, game day arrives and I try to keep from sh!tting my pants as I recorded the young ladies’ names as they arrived. Once the game started I assigned them positions and let them have at it.

Here’s where things get interesting.

Since I have no idea about even the strategies the coach had installed, I couldn’t even tell the girls what to do. The only thing left for me was to cheer them on as they played. Eventually, I noticed that the ladies on the field started changing their positions of their own accord. Ladies who I had assigned as strikers moved to midfield or defense as an example and essentially, most of the team had shuffled around by themselves. My stepdaughter for example is a violent striker, but she moved back to midfield to help the team out. She was a star that day, I know she HATED midfield.

Those girls started kicking the living SH!T out of the other team!!

While my stepson called out soccer related directions, I continued cheering on the team. That’s at least one good thing about my ADHD as I’m very loud and can scream for days on end. By halftime we were up 5-0, and by the end of the game the score was 9 - 2, although the official score was noted as 8 – 2. I wasn’t just happy that the girls had won, I was happy with how they played. One young girl in particular was simply a wallflower in the past, and as I assigned positions she had told me that she was very easily distracted so putting her in as goaltender would be a very bad idea. Normally she was off by herself and rarely got into the game. She played defense that day and anytime the ball got into her zone, she fought like a wolverine to get the ball out. I never saw that before and I made sure to cheer her on every time she engaged. She wasn't the only one and I had never seen the ladies play so hard in the games previous.

To this day I tell people that I can't take credit for how they played, they simply found their natural positions and went from being a meager house league team to a machine who surprised their competitors that day.

I was repeatedly asked if I could coach their other games and even once the coach returned I was asked yet again if I could helm their second half (edit; of a game, sorry for the confusion). I considered taking the Coaching Course so that I could instruct a team in the coming season when reality hit me later that year. This wasn’t a boy’s team, this was a team of young girls and I considered the issues, which could come from a situation such as this. While the chances of something happening was most likely very slim, I really thought about what COULD happen from a disgruntled player or her mother as an example.

I had already read online about a man who was in this very same situation, he had the skill and the knowledge to coach girl’s soccer, but due to the prevalence of false allegations, he opted out of coaching altogether. In the end, I told my wife that as much as I had fun coaching the girls that one game, that I didn’t think the risk was worth it.  That memory is bittersweet to this day as I considered how well the ladies played, but I simply think it a sad reality that men need to re-consider their roles when dealing with young people, and especially young women.

Omnipitron

How 'bout a smile this holiday season?

Things have been getting a mite serious lately so I think a smile is needed on the manosphere to keep the faith. So, as y'all know, I'm a black dude who lives in a city in Canada which doesn't have too many other blacks around town (While Toronto is very metropolitan, the Suburb I live in isn't so much) . I happened across a song which I love quite a bit and was a new addition on my MP3 player this time last year. On December 24th 2010, I happen to drive into town in my blue pickup truck with this song blaring out my speakers and the looks I got as I stepped out my truck to do some last minute Christmas shopping was Kodak worthy.

I wish I could have taken pics of the people who saw me that day.

Take it anyhow you want to, this isn't, and wasn't meant as some sort of F.U. to anyone. As I said, I happen to LOVE Jerry Reed's song, but I guess many simply didn't expect that someone like me would.

Happy Holidays everyone, and take the laughs while you can, yeah?

Being Correct, Right, and the Possible Implications

Been a recent dustup in the manosphere, which has ruffled more than a few feathers. If you haven’t heard about the sitch, then I suggest you head over to Dalrock’s but to be honest, big D stated that he didn’t want to start open season on anyone so I suggest you get your information from the source. Bluntly, a statement was made and a request for stats to disprove this assertion was also put forth. D grabbed his trusty stats like he always did and met the challenge adequately. Things went off the rails after that however as the person in question didn’t even acknowledge the information, but avoided and counter attacked in a fashion reminiscent of our friendly neighborhood feminists.

Sigh.

In the face of substantial evidence that the assertion made was woefully in error, our ‘person of interest’ decided that shaming, re-framing, victim language, and manipulation was much more prudent than simply acknowledging the error of their ways. I’m personally disappointed due to the fact that I had respect for this person in the past. I didn’t think they would ever engage in behavior such as this, heck, human beings, male or female are going to be wrong sometimes. We are biased and our sense of logic is flawed. However, the main thing about humanity is that once it has been established that someone seeks the correct information in life and their dealings, we then have faith in them despite our human shortcomings.

Why you ask?

Due to something that I believe many people overlook in their lives. Simply put, when a person is incorrect, and the proper information or procedure is made clear to them, the fact that they adopt the new information shows something about said person. That since they seek the CORRECT information in their lives and dealings, that in the event they are mistaken, they will correct their course, and change direction. So one can have faith that even if someone is ever wrong in their dealings, no matter if they are umpires at a little league baseball game, or the leader of a nation, that once they are shown the correct pathway (or the one that seems the most correct at the time in regards to the people involved and their situation) they will do the best they can with what they have.

To some, to be right, or considered to have the right position in a debate or disagreement, is synonymous with having the most correct information available. However, it must be seen that some wish to be right no matter the consequences. It’s possible that these people see debates and differing viewpoints as a war to be won and ‘to the victor  goes the spoils’ (had that backwards) so some wish to win no matter the cost.

Even if the price is their own credibility.

See, these people want to win so badly that they dismiss readily available evidence which is contrary to their position, however, once data is no longer on their side, they will have to resort to other tactics in order to get that tick in their win column. It's more than disappointing that some stoop to that level or even the fact that this person whom I once respected has engaged in the same tactics. I know some may not see this as a very large issue or may even think that I’m overreacting about this, sorry gang; I personally believe this situation is much worse than just a person trying to hide from their mistake.

You see, this approach that this person has decided to adopt is precisely the same as our friendly neighborhood feminists do in the face of data, which undermines their cause of the moment. Consider it, the feminist machine is still harping over and over about the unnecessary need of a father in the lives of children despite the fact that data is readily available which proves their value after all. Allowing fathers to be in their children’s lives would be a boon to society and assist in taming the craziness we see in contemporary Western culture. Yet we see shaming, misdirection, re-framing, manipulation, and character assassination being routinely used to bolster their incorrect assumption rather than an adjustment to their position WHICH WOULD HELP SOCIETY.  Basically ignoring the information despite it's validity.

No my friends, today this person made an erroneous statement and refused to take it back after the very proof she requested was made, but we all forget that Feminism by and large adopts this very same approach every single day. Since some simply don’t want to acknowledge the fact that fathers are necessary, we see more young boys growing into thugs and more girls growing into thug lovers. Folks, this is just ONE example of the many issues facing men, marriage, and ultimately women themselves that some just DON’T want to accept.

In my humble opinion, this sort of approach by anyone giving ‘advice’ is unacceptable.

This is why the West is going downhill gang.   When people we believed to have sound judgment enough to realize their mistakes and change in the face of evidence stubbornly refuse to give ground be they a blogger or a special interest group. No my friends, when people show this sort of behavior, man or woman, the best policy may be to always second guess their motivations or simply dismiss them outright. If they are correct, I bet money someone else will share their conclusion, if they are wrong, you have saved yourself some time.

I do have to state that the person of interest is a woman, although men will engage in this behavior as well. At the end of the day I work with a great many women whom I have great admiration for and I’m also glad that I work with and for them. However I can’t help but think that behavior such as this could have been the reason why our forefathers didn't think it a good idea for women to be in positions of power and responsibility.

How can you have any sort of faith in a person who will protect themselves and their own interests in the face evidence, which undermines their credibility?

Omnipitron

The Subverted Female 'Support' Network

Understand this; Masculinity Inc was simply the network of men working together to instruct the up and coming boys to take their place in society as the years passed. It was the men who came before who instilled the initial ‘man up’ mantra to the men who where coming after. You see women too had a network, which did the exact same thing for their young girls in order to make them valuable members of society. However, the difference is that while Masculinity Inc. has gone the way of the Dodo, the female support network is still in place. It’s just that it’s been subverted into a shadow of it’s former self.

Anyone whose spent some time on the manopshere will have a head on desk moment whenever they encounter an example of female solipsism and how horrific it works out for them by and large in regards to men and the SMP in general. However, how many really think about how women got by in the past, especially when the consequences in our low-tech history where so severe? Simply put, because women, namely older married women networked together in order to teach and train their younger counterparts. These women knew full well about the differences between men and women and the harsh penalties, which women could face if certain rules weren’t abided by. 

They where taught to look for the honest, loyal, and hard working man produced by Masculinity Inc. and to watch out for the charming but undependable lout. Yes the charming and exciting men spoke to a part deep in their psyche, but the practicality of choosing such a man held a heavy price. Men like those could charm the birds out of the trees, but would they be there for the long haul? Would those men simply deliver a song and dance and then leave them high and dry right after they got what they wanted? They where taught that chastity was one of their largest assets and while it seemed unfair for men to be able to whore around while they had to keep their legs closed, the older women repeatedly told them why and reminded them of the consequences of ‘being loose’. “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free!” was a serious and stern rule, which was driven into their minds like a jackhammer.  

The older generation showed these young ladies just how to attract a man in the first place and what it was that men liked in women so they could use in to their advantage in the SMP. They where told about how their emerging beauty was transient, and their real value was going to be their character.

Appearance gets you in the door; your personality keeps you there.

They where told to keep their wits about them as the attention from men would no doubt be intoxicating, but to be very careful as all too quickly it will dim and all you will have left is your character. They where also shown the importance of compromise in marriage and supporting your family and the truth of the matter that women benefited from marriage far more than men ever did.

These basic rules where repeated to young women ad infinitum and then re-enforced by older women even after marriage and children. By doing so, then the younger women would take the over the mantle of stewardship and teach the younger ladies coming behind them. Furthermore, they made examples of the few women who ‘fell through the cracks’ to show ladies the consequences of poor choices in this regard. Slut shaming, and the threat of becoming a spinster where used as tools to keep ladies in check.

I do believe that women in the past most likely chafed under these rules, but they also didn’t have a choice in the matter. Women aren’t like men and as a result suffer differently under similar situations and that was made abundantly clear. Sure it may seem much better to be able to earn your own money, make all your own choices, or in a lot of cases, even marry the man you wanted (not that I’m a fan of marrying someone you didn’t love), but the chances of this happening in the past was probably very poor. Did any woman want to gamble with her future that way?

Bluntly, women of the past where told THE TRUTH about their situation, that they had much more to lose or gain in life. It was an ugly reality, but it was still a non-debatable truth nonetheless. What have we now?

Well, the Suffragettes tried to change the paradigm as they where annoyed by their lack of choices and Feminism has been carrying their mantra for the last 50 years. The ‘rules’ women used to instill into their young women where deemed ‘oppressive’ and not only where they thrown out but any woman who believed in them where vilified from this growing movement. In essence, the value of being part of the group now worked against the women of the old guard as belonging now meant keeping one’s mouth shut as Feminism waged a war against mankind and femininity. 

As these important guidelines and their enforcement was abandoned all together, new ones where installed and ‘the emancipated female’ was brought to bear. However these rules where shoddy at best and criminal at worst. Females being told to be just like men, because gender was nothing but a social construct and pliable. Abandonment of chastity, having all the fun you want and then find a man later if you so wish. Careers being the way to go and why be some man’s wife and watch him achieve all the glory when you could do so yourself? Family and children being over-rated, we see single men happy, you too can be just as happy as they, right? If you do want family and children, no worries, since men benefit from marriage far more than women, then there will ALWAYS be a man waiting in the wings when you’re ready.

Sadly, anyone with eyes can see this paradigm for what it really and truly is. It’s simply lies to make some feel better about the situation and built on nothing but sand.

We have older career women who have finally achieved their professional desires that are hard pressed to find a man, which suits their fancy due to their diminished SMV and the apex fallacy. They are now competing with women far younger so the deck is stacked against them.

We have professional women attempting to steal sperm in a clandestine attempt to become pregnant as their biological clocks tick down.

We see women grossly over estimating their fertility in the first place and being unprepared with the results later in life.

We have women who have thrown away decent husbands in their younger days who desperately look for partners well after their Wile E Coyote moments.

We have women who do wish to get married but haven’t a clue how to attract or even keep a man in the first place

We also see independent career women who do wish for marriage and partnership but can’t seem to compromise with decent men.

We see women chasing after exciting but undependable men while ignoring the ‘nice ones’ and usually receiving nothing but a notch on her belt for her efforts.

We see young, high mileage women wondering why some men may view them as pump and dump material but not worthy for marriage.

We also see young women who place all their work into their appearance and none into their personality or character in bids for men’s attention.

Lastly, we see women wondering where all the nice men have gone.

The largest issue with this the existing women’s ‘support’ network is that when illuminating facts which prove that this current approach is a complete failure are shown, this network disregards them wholesale or spins them into their favor which muddy’s the water’s further and confuses young women even more. Usually Feminism’s default solution is to place the blame on men somehow for the current issues women are facing. Essentially, women are being taught to swim by being given woefully erroneous information and then thrown into the water. Is it any wonder why so many more are drowning than before?

Listen, at the end of the day, I’m not a woman and I can’t personally relate to how constrictive the ‘old rules’ may have been in the past. It is very true that as a man, it’s very easy for me to say that the old way was right and women’s freedom to choose is wrong. However, the point, which needs to be driven home, is the critical finality of a woman’s situation, which the old rules tried to protect them from. An average 40-year-old woman who wishes for the family with the white picket fence and the Goodyear swing may find herself lonely and empty without the proper guidance. Add in the fact that many women are actually being told half-truths or outright lies and it’s no wonder they’re in a heap of trouble.

Omnipitron.