Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Cognitive Dissonance; Thy Name Is Woman…

Still working on the next part of “They Want To Be Men; Part II” but something came up just recently.

Allow me to share a story with you all.

When I was in high school, I can remember a dude seemed to make a huge social jump through the hierarchy, but then fell right back down to social obscurity rather quickly. I had wondered about the quick and dramatic turnaround and asked the females in our group. Even at that young age I realized that the social scene was a female’s playground and they didn’t disappoint.

You see, this dude was lower tier, but had the fortune of being the object of a much more popular girl’s affection. She approached him, they became a couple, and he was ingratiated into her social circle as a result. He was ‘popular by association” similar to movies like “Can’t Buy Me Love” and “Love Don’t Cost a Thing.”

However, there was a distinct difference. You see, he wasn’t really the type who blended well with the in-crowd, but that wouldn’t have been an issue as they put up with him because of his girlfriend. So long as he was with her, he had it made, but, now he was of ‘higher status’ he was being approached by more women and he started to believe the hype. He broke up with his popular girlfriend, and they went their separate ways, unfortunately for him, she took his popularity with her.

No more exclusive parties, no more hotties giving him the eye, and no chance of getting back into that scene…OUCH.

This somewhat reminds me of the situation women find themselves in now. Why Hanna Rosin brays on and on about ‘The End Of Men.’ She is making the same mistake that this poor dude made years back. Thinking that the current state of affairs is inherent to them, and not because of other external factors, which is beyond their direct control. When you argue with women in terms of the oncoming collapse, they of course postulate that they will be just fine, and things aren’t like they used to be in the past. They of course haven’t the foggiest idea that the current situation, and their present level of comfort is made possible directly by the collective works of the men who marry and then work to maintain their families.

The cognitive dissonance is astounding.

Recently; I had gotten into it with a state of the art womyn on the Spearhead. I don’t like arguing online, as in quite a lot of cases it’s pointless. Just like it says in the bible (and I’m not a Christian but the good book tends to make sense sometimes) that you become just like a fool if you argue with them. It was amazing to have a woman tell me what the situation is with contemporary men (because us older men haven’t the foggiest) and even better, she had told me what the situation is with black people in North America.

I mean, who better to teach me about the social changes which transpires in the African American community than a non-black woman, right? I mean, all the experiences that myself, and my family are obviously inconsequential and have no bearing on the reality on the ground.


By the way, when you get your car fixed next time, don’t bother with the mechanic who went to school for years and then apprenticed for years more since he obviously hasn’t the first clue about cars, naw, just ask the garbage man, or your accountant, or even better your Dr. cause I mean, what does a mechanic know anyway?

Sometimes it’s funny when women who say they mean well and want to get to the bottom of this seemingly strange ‘prejudice’ against men and these bizarre occurrences where men are treated poorly don’t seem to be able to wrap their minds around the truth when men retell their stories of woe. I won’t lie; this got me pretty riled up when a regular Spearhead poster, a Peter Andrew Nolan retold the story of his life, which is harrowing to say the least. How that man survived it is beyond me and is a testament to his intestinal fortitude.

Do you think this self-admitting ‘Gender Equalist’ even listened to him? Sadly no, instead blathering on about an issue, which transpired in the thread, was actually painful to women and should be recognized as such.


It’s very difficult to have sympathy for a woman who has undergone something like being maligned in public (somewhat as names where withheld) when they have no sympathy or compassion for a man whose lost his family, house, and his whole previous life. Moreover, as an intelligent poster aptly named Opus and I had a discussion in regards to the Misandry Bubble, this Gender Equalist repeatedly popped up, attempting to state that during a collapse, that woman would be okay, in fact, even competing with men for the scarce jobs which would be available during such a time.

Can anyone say Cognitive Dissonance?

Would I call this woman a b!tch? Naw, she is simply one of many Western Woman who have bought the feminist entitlement paradigm hook, line, and sinker. It’s simply best to follow Zed’s advice and ignore such women, which can be hard as there are quite a bit of them. The only thing that I find so interesting about this situation is that if more women could indeed see the writing on the wall for what it was, they could perhaps avert a disaster, which will be hard on men, but more so on women. However, how can one recognize the readily accessible signs when men can tell you what the issues are with them directly, and you still don’t comprehend?

Well, it isn’t like we didn’t warn em?


Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Choice and Control; They Want to be Men revisited.

Happy New Year everyone, I hope everyone's holiday was good and was spent rejuvenating sufficiently from a very hard year. Ah, time off is what we all work for, no? At any rate, on to brass tacks. 

During this family break I was mulling over some aspects in regards to the dynamic between men and women in society. See, as I have already stated, I have ADHD, and to assist in making my life easier, I have learned that looking at the concepts or principles in life tends to simplify things to a great extent. While the exact actions we may take could change fairly quickly depending on the times people live in, the principles behind why people do them changes much slower in comparison. While I was mulling over the second part of my “They Want To Be Men” post that something hit me like a freight train.

Feminism is all about Choice; in reality, the LACK of choice women have in regards to their interactions with men and therefore, the control they do not have in these same interactions. In all honesty, I'm not being mean or pointing fingers,  when you look at the truth, it's as clear as day.

As I have stated in my previous post in regards to women wanting to be men, us guys haven’t the foggiest clue as how our lives differ significantly from women and the issues they may face even on a daily basis. It’s due to the amount of control men have in their lives and therefore the choices this control affords us that women chafe at so harshly, as they do not have any reciprocal control and therefore choice in their own lives when dealing with us. This isn't the fault of men or women, this is simply the way that things have played out, to be honest.

Consider the first post in this series as an example; a man has direct control over the aspects of himself which women find attractive. Confidence, knowledge, and skills in resource gathering, a man can exert his direct influence in altering his level of prowess in these areas if the need arises. Even if he was a scrub for the first many years of his life, he has the time to turn things around and get on the ‘right track’ if he so chooses. A woman on the other hand has all her eggs in the fertility basket, which is dependant NOT on what she herself does, but on the die roll of her parents. You see, just as Athol Kay  has stated (DAMNED GOOD BLOG BTW), a woman’s SMV is to some degree fluid and can be manipulated in the short term with some sexual behavior adjustments (opening up the bedroom door in an LTR much more than before) or with some well-applied makeup. Yes, men have no short-term adjustments which we can effect to bolster up our SMV or sex rank, but there is something else we have. Over the long term, men clean up, women, not so much.

Women, have only indirect control over the main asset we men look at (appearance/fertility) and essentially, her best bet is to do her best to hang onto to her declining appearance as she ages as she cannot stop the process outright. This of course is depending that she was blessed with above average genetics in the first place, of course that is completely out of her hands right from the get go.

See what I mean?

Since men can directly affect the aspects, which attract women, they in turn have more choices than women do. A man can squander his youth in all sorts of fruitless quests and choose to turn things around and become a pillar of society later in life, so long as he doesn’t choose to do so at retirement age. This same choice usually isn’t available to women unfortunately, and this does indeed have them seeing red. Women therefore have to defer to men, dressing and acting in ways, which will please them and qualify them for marriage. Sure women are the ones who make the choices in terms of who they chose to marry, but they have a boatload of work they must do beforehand, including being told repeatedly by the matriarchs in the family how types like Casey Kelso (an Alpha no doubt) are VEDDY, VEDDY BAYED and types like Eric Foreman (BETA!!) are VEDDY, VEDDY GOOD. 

The wife likes "That 70's Show"...blame her.

Consider it, a man is simply told to learn a trade and ‘eventually’ marry, for a woman it’s a case of life or death when remembering the past. a man is judged on his accomplishments, a woman is judged on what type of man she is able to land. Bit of a difference isn't there between the genders? In the past, her choice on who a woman married could mean a life of hardship or death, or a life of relative comfort. 

I will expand upon this in time, stay tuned.....