Thursday, March 8, 2012

Body MOVIN...body MOVIN...

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Friday, February 24, 2012

An Object Lesson Most Women Need, But Few Will Learn From

c/o of

Just happened across this bit of news today in regards to Kate Gosselin and her recent interview with Dr. Drew. I’m sure people will remember her from her now infamous treatment of her ex husband Jon on their former reality show. For those who may not know, yes they are divorced and Jon is apparently doing his best to stay out of the media spotlight and get on with his life, while being there for his kids. He has dabbled in the dating market, but at this point he’s gone back to be single and apparently loving it. Is it true, who's to say, but he's had more success in the dating market than his ex wife.

I’m not saying that either of these peeps are angels, both of them had some miscues during their marriage and the management of their now defunct show, however the interesting point is Kate’s current relationship status and how she seems to be taking it. The main issue I see here is that she still doesn’t own her part of why her marriage to Jon dissolved, and by not seeing it she is unable to rectify any issues she may have.

One doesn’t need to be a relationship guru to see that her behavior towards Jon was a major factor in them breaking up. However, like I had stated in a previous post, her behavior and attitude of looking out only for herself not only undermined her marriage, but also her value in the SMP. In truth, I have to shake my head at her situation; while I know that she has had some plastic surgery, it isn’t as if Kate Gosselin is ugly. I highly doubt that a man would have an issue with their wife looking like Kate at 36 especially after her having kids.  

However, her personality is such a turn off that any man with sense will stay away. A single mom with kids has a hard enough time in this world as it is in terms of finding love, but 8 kids is quite a bit for a man to swallow. Now on top of that to add a domineering and selfish attitude with an unwillingness to see her own shortcomings, well you have a lonely woman who can’t find love to save her soul. At the moment, her relationship with Jon is 'peaceful' but not due to anything she is doing differently.

No matter how many surgeries or workouts she puts herself through, until she changes her attitude, she’s pretty much SOL.

While reading up on Kate, one commenter had suggested that she could suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder. I’m no psychologist, nor am I saying that she does indeed have this disorder, but if this is the case or even a possibility, then for her to face this situation down, get tested and/or seek treatment could possibly aid in her future endeavors. I’m not saying whether she does or doesn’t but at the end of the day, her treatment of other people in her life is negatively affecting her which is precisely the reason why she is now so lonely. People simply won’t put up with her, whether she wants them too or not is irrelevant and any positive step in rectifying this situation is beneficial to her.

So here we are, two years later and she’s using her rationalization hamster in blaming her loneliness solely on the fact that she has 8 children. While her ex husband is happier without her despite her success in maintaining her appearance. This, my friends, is a prime example of being greedy and selfish at the expense of other people and how it time it will negatively affect you. A relationship is in some ways like a business deal, it’s cold and hard to put it like that, but it doesn’t make it any less true. It’s somewhat of a transaction as you trade between the two of you so you can reach a mutual understanding. Your partner has to get something out of being with you; just as you get something out of being with them. It would be bad enough if your partner received little benefit from your relationship, but for your partner to view being with you as some sort of detriment is nothing short of foolhardy.

If you want a man in your life, if anyone wants ANYBODY in their lives, then people need to make sure that your possible partner receives some benefit for being there and not simply look at their own needs alone. If not, all one needs to do is look at Kate Gosselin to see were you might end up. I had heard a saying once that your appearance gets you in the door, your personality keeps you there.


Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Bernie Goldberg on 'Out Of Wedlock Births On The Rise"

Ya'll need to see this video yeah, there's a tiny bit of male shaming in it, but in all honesty, I have nothing to add. Every point which needs to be made, Bernie makes in a very succint fashion!! As an aside...Still Going, my debate partner from Trenton Ontario, what pray tell, is your rebuttal to this man's position?

How about you listen to what's going on instead of arguing with the Sun?


Monday, February 20, 2012

Sniping your nose

Valentine’s day has come and gone for another year and I’m sure there are deludes of men in the doghouse after coming up short this year. What I find so strange about this situation is the fact that so many women are sniping their noses to spite their faces when it comes down to relationships and most don’t have a clue that they are doing so. In my bid years ago to attempt to understand women (cough) I encountered many things, which were somewhat illuminating in terms of having a successful relationship. That men and women have differing needs, which need to be met for both parties to be satisfied.

Essentially, I found one very important thing, that these needs tend to be non-negotiable, and by forgoing your partner’s needs by underestimating their importance you can undermine the very foundation of the relationship. Meeting these needs unlock the doors to satisfaction for your partner so no matter how you as a man may not understand why your wife needs to seek an emotional connection with you by talking about your mutual daily activities, or that you as a woman need to keep yourself relatively in shape to keep your husband’s eye, these things are important to them and they should be important to you IF you are seeking a happy long term relationship.

I’ve said it here before; a woman can and usually will feel neglected if for example she puts on an outfit and cuts her hair in order to get her husbands attention, cooks his favorite meal, gets the kids all ready for the evening, and cleans the house when hubby comes home, gives her a quick peck on the cheek, grabs a brew and heads to the couch to watch television for the night. All that work she put in and he doesn’t even acknowledge it, which to a woman is a cruel slap in the face and yes, it took me years to understand that as a dude. If that night hubby is feeling frisky, he probably isn’t going to get anything for understandable reasons, if she does cave and deliver him sexual satisfaction, she will most likely feel used and under appreciated.

Long term, a woman won’t feel like dressing up or being intimate if she constantly has to harass her husband to spend some time with her or even some rewards for the hard work she puts into their relationship. She would feel more like a domestic, not a wife, who toils thanklessly for a dude who takes every drop of her effort with no reciprocation and not a hint of gratitude. Even worse, if she decides to bring this up to him and he doesn’t change his ways or simply adjusts for the short term while reverting back to his old behaviors, this can and usually does lead to a sense that her needs aren’t important to him outside of what she delivers to him. This will lead to resentment, and over time, possibly straying eyes on her part and the end of the relationship in the future.

However, for any female reading this post, what I would like to touch upon is the fact that men can and will feel this way too if their needs aren’t being met.

To flip the script; a woman who gains weight, constantly belittles and denigrates her partner, manipulates his time and weaponizes sex will make him feel the EXACT same way as our maligned wife above. The point of this post is that many women don’t recognize that a man can and will feel under appreciated in relationships too. The question I wish to put forth to women is that I bet many want a guy to treat them the way the see in the movies; flowers and random gifts for appreciation of their contribution, date nights out to movies or swanky restaurants, long chats while walking in the evening time and simply to see the man desire to do these things and enjoy seeing the smile on his face when he sees how happy this makes her.

However, what I want to make clear to you ladies is simply a lesson one can learn from the fairy tales from old. The swashbuckling Prince, Knight, or hero didn’t slay the dragon, Black Knight, Evil Witch or Wizard for the hand of a nagging, ugly harridan. He braved life and limb for the beautiful and fair princess.


Bluntly, if you want to be treated like a queen, are you treating the man in your life like a king?

The behavior that women pine for comes at a price, simply put. This behavior isn’t something one is simply entitled too, any more than a husband can treat his wife the way I outlined in the first example. If you sympathize with that disparaged wife, then would it not make sense to ensure that your partner doesn’t feel this way toward you? How many women would feel safe in their relationships if their husbands did feel under appreciated in this manner?

Think about it!

As for weight gain, as time goes on, yes the pounds are going to creep on everyone, however I would wager that men simply want to see their women taking some sort of mitigating effort in this regard. Gaining some weight after years of being together is one thing, gaining 50lbs after being married for a decade is another. As an aside, I never really understood why women are even summarily accepting of letting themselves go. It isn’t as if they receive any benefit in doing so. Their health becomes compromised, their self-esteem takes a shot and it undermines their relationship with their spouses.

Maintaining your health isn’t only an investment in your marriage (and I believe that men also need to exercise and eat right as well) but also one in your long-term health, so I simply can’t see why a woman would be okay in accepting unnecessary weight gain. If a medical condition keeps her from exercising or facilitates weight gain, that’s one thing, to simply not give a sh!t is another. Even worse, to not know or even to learn what makes men tick and therefore employ it in your relationship while expecting princess treatment is setting a woman up for failure, plain and simple.

I’ve been to a counselor in the past and was told that my partner’s heavier frame was out of my hands. “It’s her body, it’s her choice.” Where her exact words, yet in my mind my answer to her was “Well, she wants to spend time with me, but then wouldn’t my time also be my choice?” 

Even if one looks on game blogs, one can easily see that men of means (skilled in game) will put forth more effort for a pretty girl than they would for a plain Jane. If this woman turns out to be an entitled b!tch, they will leave them and find another. Caring about the needs of a man simply works in your favor as a woman who wishes to be in a relationship. Does anyone remember my buddy  WL at all? For a case in point of just how treating a man poorly can affect you negatively, he had told me about something which happened between he and his wife a few years back. As I’ve stated, she does leave much to be desired in terms of her wifely duties, even to the point where my wife had stuck up for him on occasion. Long story short, she had complained to WL after seeing him in a tagged picture on Facebook smiling happily while hugging a waitress we worked with.

She asked him why he didn’t hug her that way, looking pleased as punch to be doing so. His response was that those waitresses don’t treat him like sh!t.

In conclusion, what I learned about women being happy I realized they where preset and had to be satisfied in order to keep wifey happy whomever she may be. The same goes for men, whether you agree with them or even like them is irrelevant, they are what they are. If you tell a man that he needs to ‘deal with it’ and forgo his needs, then I guarantee that you probably won’t get rewarded the way you wish too or may only receive begrudging appreciation at best.


Saturday, February 18, 2012

Female Sexual Power

Okay, although I’d read this article quite a while ago on The Spearhead, I hadn’t had the time to post about it until recently. You see the premise which Henry Laasanen states is actually quite illuminating, in my opinion as it appears to me, I think some of his conclusions have been reached due to looking at only one aspect in regards to male and female interactions. One of his conclusions was that men need women more than women need men.

Now, I can see this conclusion making sense if Henry had decided to look ONLY at sex when considering male and female leverage, but unfortunately doing so does both men and women a disservice. To be honest, that statement got my back up, part of the issue with men nowadays is that they believe this myth to be true which is why they accept bullsh!t behavior from women right from the jump. Moreover, it also instills a false sense of superiority in women, which is entirely unjustified. It isn’t true, and I believe that Henry needs to widen his scope in order to assist in facilitating his premise.

Yes, if one looks ONLY at sexual relations, it’s fairly easy to see that women by and large have men over a barrel. No, women may not pursue sex to the level men regularly do and that can be an advantage since that means that women have some leverage over men in this regard. However, men and women do not trade sex in and of itself, there is far more going on than that.

In truth, Henry is making the very same mistake that our friendly neighborhood feminist’s are making, assuming that men and women are far more similar than they really are and basing conclusions on this faulty premise. As I’ve stated in the negotiation; what Henry is forgetting is that women trade sex, (what men want and are willing to pay for) for a man’s resources (what women want and are willing to trade for). You see, both genders are looking out for their own best interests and seeking out the best deal for what they can get. To say that men and women trade in only sex would be like saying that when people are looking for houses, they trade ONLY in real estate, no mortgages, no banks, no money, just a house for a house.

How well would that work?

Women know that men like sex well enough to pay for it, which is why they where able to trade men sex for commitment. It’s due to the value that men place on sexual relations to women that a man may engage in a sex chat with women, but women may not so readily do so themselves. What do they get out of it other than a power trip at the expense of the men they are talking to? However, just as Henry had stated that women don’t engage in that behavior, men also don’t spend billions of dollars a year on their appearance now do they?

Since women don’t value sex in the same way that men do, what is the return on a man investing on his appearance in a manner such as this?

See, when one looks at other aspects of the negotiation, it becomes fairly evident that the old adage that “women need men like fish need a bicycle” is wholly false. Even the tremendous power of the male sex drive can be described akin to a biblical parable, it giveth and it taketh away. Men are VERY willing to pay for sex with attractive women…and women can take advantage of that. However, the downside is that men are VERY willing to pay for sex with attractive women…and women can take advantage of that. That a 30 something businessman maybe willing to spoil a 20 something woman rotten only to shag her, but…this businessman will also be willing to spoil OTHER 20 something women rotten only to shag them when he is 40 something and the initial woman is now 30 something and no longer worth his time.

That is the true nature of women’s sexual power. It isn’t something for men to adapt to, mainly because men don’t have too. Game and/or MGTOW is all a man needs, we simply don’t need women in the same capacity that women need us. There will always be a younger/hotter woman and when one considers what both genders bring to the table in the negotiation, the ‘women don’t need men myth’ is busted pretty handily. The world would change tomorrow if more men realized the truth about their own power and leverage. In fact, Emma the Emo had a comment, which I think, really hit the nail on the head;

Furthermore, another issue I had with Henry’s article was the fact that yes; he did acknowledge that due to the aggregate  investment of men in society, women didn’t need individual men in the same capacity. Once more, by not looking at a larger picture, he misses out WHY men invest in society in the first place and even realizing that men can opt out if they so choose.

All in all, it was a very interesting article, only that some of the conclusions where in error.


Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Ground Zero


Jersey Shore is complete crap, but that is why I watch it from time to time. To me it’s like a horrific car crash, which I simply can’t turn away from no matter how bad it gets. However, something happened a few weeks back, which really caught my attention, between Dj Pauly D, and a random girl he meets at Club Karma who was DTF.

I know I’m getting older, but I had to ask my niece what that meant. For those of you oldies like myself, it means Down To F@ck.

They go back to the Shore House and do their business; Pauly calls a cab soon after the fact, and makes light of the whole situation. Now, DTF girl actually steals Pauly’s chain and leaves. Pauly now realizes that it's missing and is in a tizzy trying to find it. The next day, she returns wearing it, stating, "Oh my god, I have no idea how I ended up with your very expensive jewelry in my panties. It just happened! Aren't I silly!"Okay, she didn't actually say that, but you get the picture.

Snooki read my mind (yeah I know, scary huh?) as I watched this ‘episode’ unfold in front of me and stated exactly what I took from the sitch;

"She stole it so she could come back and f@ck DJ Pauly D again. That's what I'd do."

Nice, stealing the chain SIMPLY as a way to return and receive more attention from the guy she currently has in her sights. What really had me going was simply this; does anyone NOT realize what just happened in that situation between DTF girl and Pauly D? Doesn’t anyone realize just how PATHETIC DTF girl was in this situation? To be reduced to theft in a weak bid to get more face time with the dude she currently fancies? What precisely did she get out of this exactly? Only a random ride from a famous dude who doesn’t even care to know her now that the deed is done is what. Money says that Pauly doesn’t know her middle name, why would be want too?

Some may say that I’m looking into this too much, but this is my take on this ridiculous situation. I refer to it as Ground Zero; basically those exact circumstances are precisely what Patriarchy was invented to protect women from. Men by and large do not value marriage the same way women do, and a man’s biological imperative is exceptionally easy to meet. In fact, it’s so easy to meet that a man can get exactly what he wants and skirt away without meeting a woman’s IF the woman isn’t smart enough to adequately manage the assets men find attractive.

Bluntly, he get’s a ride for the night, and she get’s nothing more than a notch on her belt for her trouble. Why would he want to meet her B.I., he already got what he wanted out of the deal. Hey, it’s a good thing that men don’t care too much about settling down with a high mileage or loose woman, right…oh wait.

Here’s the sitch, and I’m not getting down on Pauly D even if it seems that I am. He’s simply doing what so many other young men are engaging in right now with a bevy of willing women. Now that chastity is the thing of the past, young people can have all the hassle free sex they wish, I mean, chastity is oppressive, who pray tell wishes for that yoke to ever return? Men have no reason to invest in a woman to be honest now that the price of admission has been all but removed.

Thanks to the crap pumped out in the lamestream media, DTF Girl doesn’t even realize that she ended up on the losing end of that bargain. She gave it up so easily, she now has no ‘currency’ so to speak to trade with Pauly any longer. It's one thing to read about this stuff on the manosphere, it's truly another to see it happen so easily right in front of you!! I have yet to meet a man who ever wanted to marry a woman solely because she spent the night with someone famous.


Thursday, February 9, 2012

False Accusations…


Been reading about Audrey Ference and her position on false rape allegations and all I can say is that I’m appalled. Heck, even after this woman had seen the effects of a false rape claim on a male she knew, she still maintains the famous feminist paradigm that jailing or ruining innocent men is the price to be paid for women's safety.


Heck, I’m no rape supporter, nor am I a supporter of men assaulting women, never have been nor will I ever think it’s okay. However, it’s the fact that many women do feel they can let fly such an accusation mainly because there are little to no negative repercussions they will face in doing so. Long ago, I had written about a co-worker, WL who had suffered at the hands of such a false accusation. No it wasn’t rape, it was physical assault, but the bottom line is that it was indeed FALSE.

Didn’t stop him from having to live with his parents for 3 months in order to get the situation rectified.

I’ve said this before on The Phantom Tollbooth, and I’ll say it again; reading stats and stories from unfortunate souls is one thing, having it happen to a loved one close to you, or even to yourself is another matter altogether!! My own nephew in law had a near miss a few years ago. Sadly, it was the very same sitch that had happened to WL. When my NIL was in highschool, he and a female ‘friend’ of his got into a heated argument. She got right up into his face and was screaming at him. He finally had enough and pushed her away from him. Understand, he didn’t push her to the ground, he didn’t slap her, he didn’t even punch her, he simply pushed her and shouted ‘Get away from me!’

She took a few steps back, looked at him dead in the eye and said; “You just hit me!”

My NIL went white! He instantly knew that he could be screwed but thankfully, my former brother in law saw the whole thing and told him to get inside the house while telling her to leave. In addition, my SIL and former BIL also knew well enough to realize that she was a smoking gun, and later that year when my NIL was having a party, they turned her away when she showed up at the door. They wouldn’t even let her in the house, they where afraid of what it was that she could do.

Women have a tremendous amount of power today due to Feminism and they are sadly indiscriminate about how they choose to use it. This woman leveled a shot across the bow of my family, and luckily, no one got hurt. Others aren’t so lucky and the sad thing is why she even loaded her cannon and took a shot in the first place.

Due to the fact that she lost her temper and was losing an argument.

Here’s a question, how about all the ladies who support Audrey’s despicable position approach a REAL rape or assault victim who has had their life forever changed and is wondering just how to deal with coping and tell them a story such as this. How do you think they will react? How about telling them about the Duke False Rape brouhaha and the effects that has had on the lives of those men? How about the Hofstra case, what about that situation? You think they would feel good about nursing a violent memory and sense of violation and seeing women throwing around claims of rape for less than serious reasons? How does one think it would feel to see someone else using something that you may NEVER heal from solely as a means for gaining revenge of erasing a transgression? Does one ever consider how much it would hurt to see someone trivialize something as serious as rape in a manner such as that?

Think about it…think about it long and hard.


Monday, January 30, 2012

Reproductive Supremacy

Great post on The Damned Olde Man’s website. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, supremacy is the goal of feminism. Let me fill you in on something, kay, here’s the deal. While we human beings may not fathom our animalistic natures on a conscious level, we do have an inkling deep in our subconscious. Some refer to it as our reptile brains, which is simply a throwback to an earlier time in our development. What I’m trying to say is that at the end of the day, human beings are animals, and as much as we don’t want to consider ourselves the same as the dogs which return to their vomit on the side of the road, we still have basic instincts which shape our most basic wants and needs.

What does this have to do with TDOM’s post?

Simply put, women are faced with a very large paradox. In order for them to achieve their most vaunted goal which is independence from men, they have to ensure that men have no independence themselves. Neither financial independence nor any reproductive independence, whatsoever in any way shape or form. IF men achieve this, then the fallacy of female independence dissolves like an alka seltzer in a small glass of water.

Women’s ‘independence’ is a direct result of the works men put forth into society which is why when they bray on and on about their own freedom from the patriarchy, they will never suggest men achieve the same ends.

In short, what I’m saying is that at the very least, many women aren’t so foolish to completely ignore where their resources and therefore their vaunted independence actually come from, but they are loathe to actually admit it. Nor do they wish to give accolades to the men who make their fallacy even remotely seem like a reality. This is simply nothing but a difference in the genders, since men don't need the works of women simply to survive, of course there are no safety nets to catch the men who can't make it on their own. The fallacy is that it's men who finance the very safety nets which women require to 'make it on their own' without a man in the first place. This is why Hanna Rosin brays on and on about the “End of Men” while not considering for one reason or another where the ability for women do supersede men originates.

Women by and large are fighting for their financial and reproductive ‘independence’ and to do so means to try and bind the hands of men as much as possible. For women to achieve power, control, and choice, it means that those three things must be taken out of the hands of men. Keep this in mind when considering the motivations of women by and large, yeah?


Friday, January 20, 2012

Female MRA’s?

Girl Writes What is a female blogger who has her own youtube channel and speaks about men’s issues and the troubles with Feminism. She also posts regularly at a Voice For Men which is run by Paul Elam. This my friends is great news because as I have stated before in terms of rapport in regards to men and women attempting to reach their younger counterparts, she will be able to reach many more women then we could ever hope to ourselves.

Sure, many women won’t listen and will simply disregard her idea’s, but that doesn’t change the fact that as a woman, she will be far more effective in getting the message out. As NWOslave points out on The Spearhead;

“The sad part is, if a man says the same thing, as men have done thousands of times he’ll be universally declared a misogynist. When a woman says the same thing men have been saying for decades, it suddenly has relevance and her words are deserving of further contemplation.”

Yes it is sad, but a truth nonetheless.

However, many doubt the integrity of women such as Girl Writes What and to be honest, I simply can’t blame anyone who does. While she does seem on the level, men have been sh!t on for so long and seen too many wolves in sheep's clothing so they aren’t very quick in trusting women at this point in time. Greyghost had an amazing comment which may be blunt but I do have to agree with.

‘I see this woman as a NAWALT example for the blue pillers. At the same time she is also another source for the MRM message.
That being said she is a woman and she is and will always be on team woman no doubt about that. That is normal and natural for any women.(that is why game is so effective and explain the irrational behavior) This is no enlightenment and there is no way it can be changed. If it is in her selfish interest to treat a man well a child or give a damn anything she will. That is normal. And that is the best you are going to get and can be expected from a woman period.’

In my opinion as it appears to me, the purity of purpose of a woman joining the MRM ranks simply due to the injustice men face may be too much to expect. However, so long as women realize that their own interests are being undermined through feminism can we not reach the same destination? I’m not saying to jump on GWW’s bandwagon, or that of any other female MRA who ‘joins the ranks’ so to speak. Far from it, let her prove her worth and earn that trust herself. All I’m saying is that women will start to fill MRA ranks once it becomes more clear that Feminism is hurting their own well being especially if they are young enough to achieve their goals or they have children facing the unequal playing field which has become contemporary society.

One more thing to realize about the two support networks between men and women is that more and more men are waking up from the matrix and are now questioning the current paradigm at large. An increasing amount of men are administering the red pill themselves and due to the loss of the former male support network, there are less and less ‘voices’ to get men to grow up and take responsibility. Actually, it’s now becoming obvious why Feminism hates the MRM as much as they do.

MRA’s are taking the place of Masculinity Inc and just as we have no rapport with women, they have none with men.

This is simply the deal, even if purity of purpose isn’t apparent and some women only operate out of self-preservation by joining the MRM ranks, by stating the truth of the matter they will help far more than they can hurt. If they turn out to simply be turncoats, then we can reject them and still continue on our own way.

One more thing to any lady who is reading this and wondering about men’s rights. The earlier you join, the better you will be received. Allow me to tell you something I learned while reading about infidelity online. When reconciliation is attempted, the chances of success are increased the sooner the wandering spouse (WS) accepts their errors and ‘owns their sh!t’. The harder the betrayed spouse (BS) has to work and the longer they have to wait in order to get the WS to this point, the smaller the chances of reconciliation. Essentially, when admitting fault is done sooner, it appears to the BS that the WS wants to change for the greater good of the relationship and the family.

However, and I’ve seen a few examples of this, when the WS now turns around ONLY when the BS is literally about to leave them, then it only seems that they have changed their tune simply to cover their own @$$. In my opinion as it appears to me, there will come a time when denouncing feminism will be seen as a necessity in order to gain the trust of some men. If you join the ranks at that time, it will be very plain to many a man that you are only doing so out of blatant self-preservation because your back is against the wall.


Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Ripples in the Pond

A lot of talk in the manosphere in regards to the ill-fated Costa Concordia and it’s ‘unscheduled stop’ off the Italian Coast. The main thing which seems to trouble the lamestream media is that men abandoned all forms of chivalry and made for the lifeboats, roughly pushing women aside when they felt their lies where in danger.  Yes, some MRA’s are looking at this as practical proof that Feminism has backfired on women, but there is much more to this situation than meets the eye my friends.

I can promise you this much; this situation is more than a little disconcerting to women at large than most men realize.

Understand this, while the issue of men protecting themselves and/or their immediate families at the expense of women is indeed a sign of the times, the fact that when the traditional shaming tactics where made by the same lamestream media was brought to bear, the commentariat of said articles didn’t react the way some had intended.

Like ripples in a pond, the only thing this sign of the times has revealed is that the winds of change are indeed blowing, and blowing against female privilege at male’s expense.

While the tide hasn’t turned yet and any ‘revolution’ is still gestating, women are very slowly (but surely) realizing that when the chips are down, the male characteristics they took for granted and felt entitled may not always be there. Kay Hymowitz’s article was simply the start, where shaming men was actually met with resistance, something she and others, most likely didn’t anticipate. Make no mistake, security is something women by and large value very highly, and men where seen as disposable once the government was able to provide or ensure the security they so covet. This is the deal everybody, just the fact that male support is no longer 100%guaranteed no matter the circumstances any longer ADDED to the fact that men are starting to justify exactly WHY this assurance is no longer in effect instead of agreeing with the shaming paradigm is disturbing to women. You can bet your boots that some women, a lot of women are questioning the current paradigm and their apparent ‘supremacy’.

It all comes down to what if as far as women are concerned.  Essentially, they may ask themselves, what would happen if I was involved in a similar disaster and I had no male partner for security? This is just the tip of the iceberg my friends and expect women to really start questioning their attitudes once situations such as the Costa Concordia happen more frequently, and also, MUCH closer to home.


Monday, January 9, 2012

Pointing to the sun


Read this wonderful comment from Boxer on the Spearhead, which I just had to share with you;

“The beauty of our movement is in the clarity and simplicity of it. None of us needs to be some sort of guru, leading kids through complicated mental gymnastics, to see the truth behind our contentions. Even young boys pick up on the obvious fact that most women are screwballs who are not to be taken seriously. No foul language, crass talk or overt bashing of women is necessary. Quietly pointing out the obvious while acting as a living example is generally sufficient. Emphasis mine.

Well-said Boxer, and I steadfastly agree.

I’ve seen this same thing when MLM critics take on the indoctrinated on their own blogs years ago, leaving said kool-aid drinking supporters sputtering, insulting and shaming as their critics drown them in undisputable facts. The truth is very powerful, and whenever the ‘believers’ try to state their rationalizations, all one has to do is quickly point to the truth’ “Sorry, the sun IS yellow” and go right back to their discussion as if there was never any rebuttal in the first place. That’s the situation, it’s too easy to disprove the foolishness the indoctrinated try to deliver and the less you give credit to their position, the more in angers them. In reality, they are only trying to win by any means necessary, They know full well that their argument resembles swiss cheese in reality, it isn’t that they CAN’T see the truth nor that they are too stupid, it’s that they don’t wish to see the truth is all.

The truth hurts, don’t hate the player, hate the game.


Friday, January 6, 2012

Should Be Me vs. Could Be Me


We’ve already spoken about the two unique networks distinctive to the genders which in the past where responsible for their proper guidance and education in order to facilitate society. Obviously over time these networks have either changed dramatically or have been utterly usurped but that’s nothing new. The main thing that I want to share with you guys is something that I just realized today. This, sadly, is why us as men have our hands bound when trying to get through to contemporary women.

If you haven’t been to Laura Grace Robins’ site, it’s worth a gander. The Header for her blog actually relates to our collective situation very well. I won’t spoil it for you as she has a brilliant explanation for why she chose it and it’s well worth the read.

The fact that I wish to share with you is that the networks of the past worked like they did because the older generations had a rapport with the younger ones, which sadly cannot be superseded by the other gender. In other words, while some MRA’s wish to reach out to women and show them the light, trying to assist them from taking a path, which will most likely end up in misery  is sadly little short of foolhardy. We simply do not have the connection that older women have with their young charges. Hold up, I know what you’re thinking; we can discus the evil effects of Feminism with the older generation, right? Heck, after they wake up from the number Feminism has done on their lives, they should be ready and willing to lambaste this foolishness for what it is, right?

Sadly, that too is a no go.

See, what men did in the past was they used their considerable influence and experience to shame/lead young men into ‘manning up’. They showed the young man their own family and told him that he ‘SHOULD be’ like this. Wife, kids, house, responsibility, yup, there was a time that a man who lived for only himself didn’t necessarily meet with favor from the older men in his sphere of influence. However, even though Masculinity Inc. has been all but destroyed, you still have the older generation showing the younger ones what he ‘COULD be’ if he isn’t careful in this day and age.

While it may not serve society, (which has rejected men by and large) the paradigm of the older generation educating the younger ones is still somewhat in play.

However, when it comes to women, we have a much different situation. While many women are suffering the ill effects of feminism, instead of showing the younger ones coming after then that their unfortunate circumstances could happen to them too and as a result they need to be wary, they use their powerful rationalization hamsters to diminish the situation and then spin their current situation into a ‘positive’ light. In this way, they diminish the negative effects of their choices and young women are therefore unaware of the very real ill consequences in their paths. If a man ever tries to tell these experienced women the truth of their circumstances, these women then protect their worldview at all costs, viewing the men as interlopers and would rather deliver false information than face the truth.

See, to warn younger women would force these more experienced ladies to view their circumstances in too real a light. They rationalize for a reason; they are protecting themselves of course, sad but true.

This is why attempting to show women the light is usually a fool’s errand. If you doubt, all one needs to do is count the number of supportive women in the MRA and just how many of them have the guts to take a harsh look at their current situations. It isn’t that many Men Rights Agitators wish women to be only barefoot and pregnant, it’s just that trying to have your cake and eat it too can lead to some very negative consequences. There are VERY few women who will take up the cause, some being wolves in sheep’s clothing on top of it. I’m not saying to give up in trying to tell women their possible futures, not at all. Just saying that in my opinion as it appears to me, that the chances of success in making them realize that the negative issues we speak about that are veritable threats in their lives, and that the issues which face men will eventually hurt them too won’t be anywhere near as good as we would like.


Thursday, January 5, 2012

Self Worth DAMMIT;

Gonna rant here, it will be long, you’ve been warned!!!

Men, it’s time to find your self worth. It has been under attack for the last 40 plus years thanks to our friendly neighborhood feminists, but it’s high time men in the aggregate grew a goddamn backbone. If any single men are reading this blog and born in a Western Country then you are just like me many moons ago. See I had thought that since women no longer need men like they did that I had better learn to be nice to one in order to marry and settle down. We no longer had the upper hand in terms of resources so being just a man no longer seemed to be good enough.

On top of this; if you are between the ages of 20-30 and especially a white male, you have been exposed to boundless propaganda, which has given you a very distinct but erroneous impression of how men and women really operate. You most likely view women as always correct, intuitive and strong willed people who have overcome hardships in their past and thanks to contemporary culture have risen up to claim their birthright. Some of you may even view women as being smarter than men due to their academic success and their prevalence in post secondary education.

It’s time for you to get your balls back, gentlemen! It’s time to start looking at things from a different perspective. I need to bust the sh!t out of a myth for you. Let’s look at a comment Carnivore made on a post Christian J just put up.

“CJ, I hear ya, but even more obvious - take a drive in any city or town - block after block of buildings, roads, bridges, electric lines, water lines, gas lines, telephone, cable TV and on and on it goes - all designed and built and maintained by MEN.

Drive in the country - mile after mile of paved roads sometimes through difficult terrain. All designed and built and maintained by MEN.

It's all so easy to take for granted. Oh and BTW, women need men like a fish needs a bicycle. Yeah, right.”

Yes, that’s right, you need to read that part again. Carnivore is right on the money, men build and maintain infrastructure so well that even us MEN take it for granted. By and large we don’t even see what it is that we contribute to society on a regular basis so when the media states that we are useless, we literally bow our heads and agree. We need to get our collective heads out of our @$$ES and realize what the f$ck the deal is!! If you haven’t already, take a gander at the grand daddy of all MRA posts; The Misandry Bubble by The Fifth Horseman. It’s a very long read, but well worth the effort. What you need to realize is this one very simply fact;

Men by and large need VERY little to survive, we can get by on exceptionally little and just on our very wee lonesome, a piddly @$$ job, a crappy set of wheels (or no wheels depending on where you live), and a cramped apartment can do us well once we set up our PS3 that is. My buddy ER rents a single room…that’s it, it’s all he needs. This is what your homework assignment is my good buddies, if you are single; simply look around your digs, where do you live? Count up your assets, where do you work? What sort of expenses do you have, more importantly, how many complications do you have in your life. Compare that to your single male friends and you will find the pattern largely remains true. Now, compare what you have found to that of your married friends or even your father and you will see a very large and distinct difference.

Their job, much larger earnings, their houses or homes at all, much larger and more expensive (my grammar sucks, deal with it). Their vehicles, same thing, their taxes, oh yeah, much more going to Uncle Sam, The Great Canadian Beaver, or Jolly Old England. What I’m trying to say is that infrastructure in virtually ALL of its forms are maintained by the works of married men!! By getting married, men contribute to society and allow it to grow and innovate brand new improvements. Men on their own seldom toil to this level themselves, but with a family to support, they will move mountains.

The crux of the Misandry bubble is that without a man’s contribution…YOUR contribution, everything crumbles. Everything, get it? As of right now, men not only have no incentive to get off their duffs, but have a very serious reason NOT to get married due to the biased family courts and marriage laws. Make no mistake, the denigration of men spells doom for any society and yes, it has happened before in the past and those societies went the way of the dodo.

Time to recognize your value to society and to yourself, grow a backbone, you have every reason to do so!!

If you look at the all the parts of the negotiation between the sexes, you will see that women where at a distinct disadvantage in terms of leverage. If you are a newbie to the manopshere by chance, then hang around some; you will learn in time, if you’re a veteran, I may shake your tree a little bit. Many MRA’s (Men’s Rights Agitators) maintain that patriarchy was to control female hypergamy.

I highly doubt that.

In my opinion, Patriarchy was used to harness MALES and their tremendous power to create wealth. It was by keeping MEN under control that civilizations have been built and technologies have been forged. Controlling females was simply ONE means of engaging men’s incentive and therefore their works. Men are the ones to be controlled and engaged…NOT WOMEN. Why you ask, once more one needs to look at the negotiation to see the truth. Men can opt out of civilization, thereby creating a huge loss in possible resources; it’s merely a choice to them. Women, have no choice, they have to opt in or they die. Since this is the case, what is to be gained by catering to women since they have no other option? Not only did this engage men to use their excess labor, it also PROTECTED women's interest as well. Ever wonder why Patriarchal societies accommodate men to extremes other societies consider excessive (not that I agree in some cases)? Simple really, they recognize the great need to have men to continue to invest in society and giving them incentive to carry on is the name of the game!!

Forget this fish and bicycle crap, women can replace us just like us guys can have babies. Believe it, and if you don’t then you best get there!! It's sad to say that men need to learn the value of masculinity and just what puts steam in our step from the internet, but what's done is done and we have no other recourse.

That’s why you have some men who have the guts like ER or Brutus NOT to accept a woman’s crap. They realize that THEY are the prize for whatever reason, and the fact that you can make a woman's dreams come true is a bl@@dy good one in my opinion. My mother said it a long time ago, and she’s was right, I just didn’t see it at the time. This is a man’s world, it always has been, and always will be. The ONLY reason why sh!t’s hitting the fan now is because of the fact that certain ‘men’ on top are allowing it (and benefiting from it). If you desire to get married, then you need to change your attitude. Do not date women thinking you are somehow lucky to even find one willing to marry you, this will work as well as the Hindenburg’s maiden voyage. No my friends, you need to conduct yourself with your future contribution well in sight. YOU as a man who may marry are going to be the one to make all the dreams come true for some lucky girl…YOU. Why the hell are you lucky to find her pray tell? Just what is so amazing about her that when you are older and more valuable that she will still be a good deal? Why do you have to jump through a trillion hoops to prove yourself to someone who simply believes they merely have to show up?

You need to ask your proposed why she is good enough for you and what it is that she plans to contribute in any relationship with you. Marriage can be a minefield for men and you have every reason to ask. There where checks and balances men used to get and you best make sure you do your due diligence. If you don’t like the answer, BOUNCE. Mark my words, you will…let me say this again…you WILL find another. There are far too many men accepting women far below them and this sh!t needs to stop. You as a man can afford to wait, you don’t like what you see, you don’t need to purchase today. Don’t like what she’s selling, then come back in a day, a year, 5 years, hey, YOU’VE got time. If you’re a man who wishes to get married in this climate, you need to thoroughly screen any woman you deem worthy of your attention. Once you ascertain your value and stop thinking of yourself as lucky to even have a woman, it will be easier to do so once you have a valid reason. 

I was lucky, I didn’t know my worth and found a good woman, most who don’t realize their worth end up much worse than I. I have to state that I’m a stepfather, so you should take my opinion with a grain of salt, but I still believe that too many men don’t recognize their own value and therefore, do not DEMAND as much as they should from the dating market.

At the end of the day, take this information any way you want to. If you want political action, or to become an MRA, maybe learn game it doesn’t matter, whatever floats your boat. All I want you and every man who ever reads this post to understand is this; that even if you never learn game (although I strongly suggest you do), DO NOT EVER ACCEPT A WOMAN’S CRAP BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE. You do have a choice, which is exactly what they DON’T WANT you to think. Why you ask? Due to the fact that if you think that you have no choice, you will ignore all the choices that they don’t have nor see the manipulations they're attempting with you.


Wednesday, January 4, 2012

When Good Men Go ‘Bad’

Earlier today a co-worker, ER, sidled up to me with his android phone in his hand.

“Wanna see the latest one?” He says with a small smirk.

“Sure!” I said with a smile.

He plays with his phone and then shows me the Facebook page of a very cute woman, I’d peg her as a 7. He seems somewhat enthused about her, as he described her attributes, but not overly so, he didn’t overdo it, then again he never does…anymore. See ER always gets this way when he first meets a girl, he has high standards, and as soon as a girl p!sses him off, he bounces because he simply doesn’t have the patience to deal with it. Moreover, he knows one more thing; he doesn’t HAVE to deal with it.

ER wasn’t always this way, trust me on this one.

See, about 5 years ago when ER first joined the company, he was a very geeky twenty something who was horrifically beta in every way. Don’t worry, even he would call himself a geek, but he is a lot more confident when he says it now. He did posses some alpha traits in that despite his thin stature, he had taken strict martial arts training when younger and is a very mean fighter, but you would have to pull that information out of him like a dentist pulls teeth. He doesn’t brag about that sort of thing, which makes you wonder just how dangerous he really is. Well, years ago he caught his serious girlfriend cheating on him, literally walked in on it (not physical, yet) and broke up with her but sadly had gone from the frying pan straight into the fire soon after! His rebound put him through a vicious roller coaster and sadly, during a point in his life where he would have sorely needed some support.

Let’s just say that ER and I have had many talks about his sitch over the years and that dude was tested by some very serious infernos.

Well, to be honest, after he let this three alarm fire he called a girlfriend go, something about him had changed drastically. He had told me that he simply no longer cared, that he used to live to make women happy, and now he honestly didn’t give a flying sh!t any longer, now it was about him. All of a sudden, ER went from being in a monogamous relationship and being treated like crap, to showing me pictures of various women he was dating, and MANY of them too. Let’s just say that this greater beta has embraced his inner alpha and it has done wonders for the guy.

Let me tell you this bit of information; just like my former manager I spoke of (who has moved on to greener pastures with a better position outside my company) he has never spent ANY time on an MRA site, but he grasps the contemporary male situation VERY well regardless. We’ve had many discussions on the topic of women and relationships and you’d think he’d poured over virtually every site on the Manosphere with the level of information he has. Don’t get me wrong, when he’s in a committed relationship, he’s faithful through and through, but when he isn’t, you are nothing but a notch on his belt UNLESS you prove otherwise.

Actually, I should restate that; you are nothing but a notch but he will keep you there with the chance of becoming more UNLESS you prove that you are unworthy. You should see how many have been unworthy; like I said he has high standards and realizes that this is HIS game.

The bottom line, the crap that he would have gladly accepted years ago, doesn’t even register on his radar now. In truth, his dating life reads like something out of the Manosphere’s dos and don’ts for women. Women giving it up too early and begging him to come back the night after, older women chasing after him like an addict for their next fix and it goes on and on. He’s a young man in his early 30’s who has had women indirectly show him just how powerful he really is in the dating market, and now he is taking advantage of it. He was the sort of guy who lived to make a woman happy, now he goes through them with an attitude similar to a manager at a job interview. He wasn’t like this before ladies; guess who made him that way?

Consider that the next time you lament over where "The Nice Guys Have Gone." They're still there honey, they just changed their approach.