Thursday, December 16, 2010


Why this blog, why do I maintain it…why does anyone care?

I remember when the Troll King commented on my blog and gave me an encouraging word when I was just starting out. Thank you TK, your words mean the world to me. And many thanks to the Hawaiian Libertarian for adding me to his blogroll as well, thanks for giving me a chance, I appreciate it. I didn’t know why I was even starting a blog when there where so many already out there.

Now I do.

Why…because I was a meager Mangina who was schlubbing through this world looking for the key information to please women and came away with an ammo box full of blanks. The wrong information I can assure you but it didn’t matter, I continued trying anyway. Now, at 35 years old, I realize that I was asleep at the wheel during a critical phase of my life…but I’m still on the road driving.

As I read the Spearhead and other MRA sites, I begin to realize one very important thing; that even though I had my eyes closed, things could have been a whole world worse for me and I didn’t even comprehend what was even at stake. How did I navigate through this minefield like I had? Some would say that I’m still in the thick of things, and others would say that I’m raising children, which aren’t mine. Correct on both counts of course, and sure there is still time on the clock before things could go south, but even at this ‘young’ stage I’m at, I already have friends who haven’t been married as long who have seen their lives crash and burn in front of them or even have partners who are as willing as mine has been. Due to this ‘progressive’ society and female entitlement, their lives have turned out for the worst and they didn’t have any warning as they still lived in the past as far as their expectations where concerned.

Why am I writing this blog? Because I gambled and I came out with my head, others weren’t so lucky and I want to help all the young people out there just like me who do wish to get married, but have their heads filled with tripe in terms of how the world actually works. I personally believe that if you save even one person, then you save their whole world, cliché but this is what I believe. One person can indeed affect many people’s lives, I have learned this the hard way and I hope others don’t have to do the same.

I believe in marriage as an institution, but I also believe that nowadays, men should indeed avoid marriage or use adequate (and I mean heavy duty) due diligence in finding a worthy woman. I believe that when you marry and have kids that they are your prime responsibility. I’m using my own bias in this determination as I have had experience with young children before and adolescent lives are indeed are very heavy task to take care of. What’s the difference between a young woman on the right track and a teenaged mother? I can tell you through experience, not very much without the proper guidance.

I believe that young men are the backbone of this society and that there is a lack of good male role models in which to teach them right from wrong. Don’t ask me how I know this but male role models are essential to a young man growing up healthy and happy. Watch your child who is scared about their upcoming performance in a school play and then pay attention as they look into your eyes and then they calm down. I’m not joking when I say that!!

I believe that even though I’m not a Christian, that men should be the head of their households as they are born to lead, women are born to follow. Men are blessed with their pragmatic and logical natures and not swayed as easily by emotion as women tend to be. We men don’t recognize just how selfless we are in normal life as the media paints a very good picture of how horrible, useless, and tyrannical we are. I’ve begun to take the lead of my own household, funny how things are working better now that I have done so, and I’m just getting started.

I believe that there is a collapse of epic proportions coming and that men need to take advantage of this opportunity to teach our young men coming behind us about what it means to actually be a man as the current circumstances binds our hands. Speaking about the elites at this time can be dangerous, especially if you already have a family, but in time, we may be able to seize the moment and lead young men into becoming the leaders they where meant to be.

What I wish to do with this blog is assist the hopeless betas out there who where just like me, aimless yet wanting to share their lives with a worthy woman. As a man who wishes to get married, there are indeed rights we have, but as a betas, we don’t think we have any say in the matter much less any reason to even ask in the first place.


My aim now is to illuminate as much as I can in terms of how the world works to any young men who will listen. I will show my stepson what I know, but the main part there is how I treat his mother and how I take the lead. There are too many good men out there that haven’t the foggiest clue as to what the world will take from them and they are unwittingly lying down on train tracks as it comes to run them over and they haven’t the foggiest clue what is at stake.

No one taught me, but I’m unscathed for reasons I cannot relate here, what about the rest? Someone has to look out for them, as they haven’t a clue what is after them!!!


Monday, December 13, 2010

What Jeff told me about Radiation

Just read this on Grerp’s site and it really had my head turning. I had always known that divorce was hard on kids and family, but it had never been put in a way like this to me before. It had me thinking about my own past in terms of my childhood, my marriage and a philosophy that my old supervisor in my fulltime job had unknowingly instilled in me.

Eleven years ago my supervisor, Jeff, was telling me about radiation and how something so misunderstood could be used to benefit people. When I asked him about why they where using radiation in Thyroid Therapies he had told me about the risks vs. rewards in this case. Sure, dumping a large amount of Iodine-131 into a person’s body isn’t the sanest thing in the world, but when someone has Thyroid Cancer, the Iodine risk is deemed worth it to eliminate it. It’s a lesser of two evils sort of thing and I never forgot that advice. It made me consider the risks and rewards of various situations, which are available in this life, which must be, weighted as the circumstances merits it.

What does all of this have to do with Grerp and the 4th turning, just this, that at an earlier time in my life, I was looking to make the big leap to end my marriage as well.

I don’t like discussing the particulars, as my wife isn’t online to defend herself from anything I may say. Let’s just say that after 5 years together and one more being married; she was happier than a pig in poo while I was miserable and even my wife would agree with this statement. In 2008, we had just finished counseling which was informative to say the least and did give some hope as we went forward, but I still had my misgivings. I was deathly afraid that the issues which I had with our marriage wouldn’t be addressed and I would always get the short end of the stick for the remainder of my life.  It seemed my wife and her kids would benefit from my remaining in this situation but apparently at my expense. I even posted my situation on a message board I used to partake in so I could get fresh eyes on my situation, I was afraid that my perception would be marred by my personal bias and a choice this serious needed to be done in the most sober mindset possible.

So why didn’t I leave, why did I stay and tough it out?

Well, one very large reason was that I wasn’t sure I would be able to find a ‘better deal’ out there. I had read many a story of men and women ‘trading up’ only to find that their ‘one and only’ existed solely in their imaginations, and worse yet, that their previous beloveds where actually their real partners for life. I didn’t want to leave the frying pan and enter into the fire and when we are dealing with life choices, we have to understand one major thing. That there are no mulligans, no do-overs, we have one shot and we have to make it a good one. Life doesn’t follow our favorite fictional stories and I didn’t want to end up like some of those sad tales of woe who divorced too fast without thinking. My wife was willing to work on our issues, at the time it seemed that we just wouldn’t be able to get a breakthrough, yet was I willing to leave someone who was willing to put the effort in and try again?

The overarching reason however, was this; that even though my step kids aren’t biologically mine, I would be changing their worlds in one of the most drastic ways possible. They had no say in my choice, no voice, no option and yet their lives, their whole worlds would change in every possible way imaginable if I decided that I was going to leave and start my life anew. How would this affect them and their futures? What sort of lessons would this teach them as they continued on with their lives? Years ago when I was on a cheating website (not the issues my wife and I had, I was there for reasons relating to my parent's past), I ran into a Feminist who called herself Ironyrulz. She had said something that I will never forget about children and their parents. She had said that us parents are our children’s Gods.

Yes, you read that right. No offense to the big guy upstairs though.

That the world could be falling apart around them and so long as Daddy and Mommy are okay, then they are all right. However, the reverse of this is also true; that the world could be just fine, and if Mommy and Daddy are waging war, then they are suffering the worst for it.

Did this mean that I resigned myself to staying no matter how miserable I was?

No, and I don’t advocate that attitude of staying for the kids no matter what (although Grerp does make some very good points about staying on her blog). No, I decided that if I were going to leave, it would be on MY terms. That I would have to leave these kids with a clean conscience, and to do that I would have to know that I exhausted every possible chance to fix our marriage and that leaving was the ONLY choice which made sense. This is where Jeff’s example comes into play, that leaving my family would only make sense if by staying, the situation would become definitely worse for everyone involved. 

I decided that I would talk with my wife about my concerns and try again, I couldn’t leave thinking that there was a chance that I didn’t take or a solution that I didn’t try. I believe in Karma, and I didn’t want the Karma of leaving children to a broken home and a wife who was willing but maybe needed a little more time on my conscience. So, Mrs. Omni and I open some more dialogue and guess what happened? Things are better than ever and improving all the time. We have our ups and downs, and I don’t want you to think that I’m Super-Step or Heroic Hubby, not at all. Just a regular guy doing the best he can with what he knows and trying to learn more as time goes on.

What I think Grerp explains thoroughly is the lack of effort made by both men and women (more women though, Eat Pray Love anyone?)  in this day and age. That ‘happiness’ trumps everything and that marriage is supposed to resemble fiction, always sunny with no clouds or bumps in the road to make us grumble at any time. This is simply unrealistic, and I think causes much more damage to the institution as a whole and therefore society as well. My sister had said one thing once, which really had me thinking years ago before I even met my wife. She said “Too may people are looking at marriage as something they can take from as opposed to something they should put into.”

Wise words, which I wish more people in this day and age, saw the merit in.

Am I saying that people should be hooked up in a miserable marriage like oxen yoked to a cart. I must say that I disagree with that, but I will also say that if things are indeed miserable, before divorce is chosen, are the people involved willing to do EVERYTHING possible to fix the situation? And even before getting married, are the two people involved fully understanding the situation they are entering? I’m willing to bet that if more people where willing to explore every possible opportunity before pushing the red button that the amount of divorces we see in society would decrease.


Sunday, December 12, 2010

Represent, repre-sent-sent

Anyone who has spent any sort of time on the Manosphere obviously realizes that Feminism and the wonderful benefits it gives to society is the Topic du Jour. We have seen the many negative issues, which Feminism creates, the denigration of fathers and vilification of men in society, the encouragement of false rape/domestic violence allegations while providing no protection to the men who could suffer the massive fallout of such heinous claims. The massive expansion of the rape definitions to further cow men into submission and the absolute stonewalling of men’s reproductive rights just to name a few topics. This has lead to more boys growing up delinquent and young girls becoming mothers far too young and needing more and more government support plus a moral degradation of society and a family court system biased against men and fathers. All the while, what do we here from Feminism?


Right…women have changed the social and political landscape and have more freedoms and rights than even the men they decry and yet they are still wailing for more freedom due to the evils of ‘the patriarchy”.  Needless to say, once you wake up from the matrix and realize the truth about the hate movement feminism actually is which will in some cases stoop to use spin and sometimes fabrications in order to achieve its goals. When people discuss these topics on the Manosphere, you will sometimes see Feminists pop up to ‘explain’ how they see things and to alleviate the obvious misconceptions of their order.

However, here is the thing they do not realize, they do a piss poor job of it.

Realize this; that as a Feminist, when these womyn step up to the plate to defend their ‘order’ they actually represent feminism wherever it is that they happen to go. Once you state that you are a hardcore feminist, then some will pay more attention to you to see whether the ‘hate filled’ manosphere is actually right or simply full of sh!t. The truth of the matter is; that most feminists actually show people that what they see in Feminism on a whole is actually true even on an individual level.

Yes there are many feminist shaming tactics that will get pulled out of the hat once their ‘special snowflake’ platform get’s crushed under the unruly and unyielding force of reality but understand that the situation goes further than this. Just take a look at Dalrocks Blog as he is currently mining Gold in terms of certain Feminist commenters running their Rationalization Hamsters on an Indy 500 type pace. I didn’t think that those teeny little guys could hang in there for that long, but hey, guess we learn something new everyday huh?

Gotta provide some quotes to give some examples for the sake of ease.

Womyn A;
"A resounding ditto here! My husband and I went thru a very rough patch about 12 years ago – the D word was being tossed around. My female friends (fellow career bitches) all urged me to hang in there, slow down, don’t make any drastic moves, look for the good in my spouse – all wise words. We “fixed” our problems and are pretty happy together these days!
At the time, there were a couple people in my circle that did let me know my husband wasn’t good enough; not enough formal education, money, or status. “You could do so much better!” I married a blue-collar guy – apparently I didn’t get the email on women’s hypergamy – we are all obsessed with money and titles.
Who were the naysayers? Not career bitches or girly girls; they were men."

Now this exchange can be found on this blog, and the one thing I will agree on is that nothing in this world is 100% one way or another. It would be foolish to expect that women act a certain way all of the time and that men also follow suit to the same extent and exceptions are sure to make themselves known…but why is it that only the feminists had this sort of experience which also happen to be the inverse of Dalrock’s point?

As Arsenio Hall used to say, something to make you go Hmmm?

Womyn B:
"I’m sorry, D. I just don’t see many RL examples of the stuff I hear about from MRAs on the net. Yes, men get hurt by divorce. No one is better off after a divorce, but MRAs do ignore that women can be hurt too."

I see, so here we have an ‘innocent’ statement about how this self-admitting feminist doesn’t seem to see the rampant misandry in the Western World. If these people where truly about equality, then when men and the worthy women who also point readily accessible examples out, wouldn’t it then be easier to notice them? Folks, yes when people are still ‘hooked up’ to the matrix, it can be easy to miss the obvious. However, if even after members of both genders use examples, and the issue still can’t be seen, what does that say about that person? I mean, possibly this womyn may not see the misandry, I mean, she could live in a cave or something, then again, I guess one could access the internet from a wired up crevasse in the Himalayas right?

Could it be that quite possibly, the reason that they don’t see the issues at hand is because they don’t WISH to?

These are just some of the examples and if you check through the comments, you will see inverse reality used extensively and exceptions applied to alleviate the humdrum common sense rules, which Dalrock and others will provide…that are also backed by statistics. Heck, you will even see comparisons by these womyn made between Game Blogs to the massive mainstream media in how they deliver the ‘trade up’ messages to men and women.  Consider it for a second, Citizen Renegade and In Mala Fide being compared to Eat Pray Love, which is part of Oprah’s book club and played by A-list actors and a huge budget.

If I ask my neighbor about EPL, there is a decent chance they’ve heard about it, but if I ask what they thought about Ferdinand Bardamu’s latest blog post, I’m sure they will have never heard of him, get the picture? I think it’s asinine to compare a website that you have to have prior knowledge of, get on your computer, navigate to through the web, and then read the contents ALL BY CHOICE compared to a crappy movie based on nothing but female hypergamous fantasy which will get forced into your living room depending on which channel you are watching multiple times a day, EVERYDAY.


D’s blog isn’t the only place where we can see these wonderful postulations being heaped upon the Manosphere, just that Dalrock inadvertently created a venue where one can see this phenomenon regularly. It may be a good idea to take a gander (as he makes some very good points regularly and you will be happy that you took the time to read) so you can watch this phenomenon unfold in front of you.

Now the biggest and most telling aspect of a feminist’s dubious nature is the defense of bad female behavior; this IMHO, is the most dangerous characteristic about the Rationalization Hamster. In this post on D’s blog, he pointed out the life course of a woman who divorced her husband and apparently her life didn’t turn out anywhere near as well as she had intended. Sure enough, here came the Fem’s defending her actions and insinuating that we don’t know enough about the situation to infer that she did so frivolously.

Womyn C;

"But Suzie isn’t in low-income housing because she got a divorce. She is in low-income housing because she dropped out of grad school and spent time in mental-health institutions.
And again, it still doesn’t follow that she would prefer to be with a man she left just to have a more comfortable house or have some companionship. Isn’t it a bit presumptuous to assume we know what is best for her? Surely only she can define that, no? Maybe she’s thinking, “As bad as things are, at least I am not with my ex-husband anymore!”
Look, I am quite sure there are plenty of people in the world who have regretted divorce or wished to return to their partners. But the idea that this is always or often the case seems unlikely. Usually people leave marriages because they REALLY don’t want to be married to that person any more. I am not saying that’s a good thing, but the idea that women who divorce will get their comeuppance some day is not necessarily true."

True, while we don’t know everything about her situation, there was a distinct lack of evidence proving that she wanted nothing more than to trade her hubby up for a better deal. Dalrock also went back to his wife, as this woman was her friend, for more information and wound up finding yet more evidence, which suggests frivolity was indeed a major factor in the decision-making. The illustrious Zed had a comment on another of D’s posts, which summed up my thoughts succinctly.

"To me, the most disturbing aspect of a whole lot of what I see being written these days is that it gives the impression that “being a good husband” just isn’t worth very much to women these days. A man seems to need Game even in marriage, and lives with the sword of Damocles hanging over his head if he goes off his Game.
I usually find the comments to articles like this much more disturbing than the articles themselves. If all these supposed “NAWALTS” really were “not like that”, I would expect them to be ripping into selfish women like this, telling her how stupid she was for frivolously divorcing a man she describes as a “great husband.” Instead, the majority of comments always seem to be of the “you go, grrl” variety." (Emphasis mine)

And that’s the point!! Where are the ‘responsible’ womyn stating that what this particular woman did was wrong? Wouldn’t the Feminists be the loudest voices decrying this sort of bad behavior from other women? Their fore-mothers fought so hard for this equality that they now enjoy and positioned them to be able to extract more rights when the need arises but to have a woman abuse it in a manner such as this makes ALL women look bad. Yet why do we have an overwhelming amount of NON-Feminists (Grerp, Susan Walsh, and Thag Jones just to name a few) being the ones who don’t approve much less attempt to defend such behavior?

When these Non-Feminists discuss the duties, which are important to children and family, you will also see Feminists discuss the importance of the mother’s happiness in these cases over everything else. Do I think that anyone needs to be unhappy in the course of a marriage? Heck no, but I also think that some of the current circumstances are rewarding a woman’s happiness at the expense of her family and when people like Dalrock point this out with evidence to back up his position, he gets an attempted snow job in return.

This is the deal, understand everyone, this is the same use of the Hamster which will Rationalize away a mother killing her husband and/or her children who seems very much innocent from all the evidence provided. These would be the people who would assume that if a woman acted in a manner such as this, then obviously there where extenuating circumstances which forced this woman to deviate from the acceptable norms, and therefore innocent of any negative repercussions right?

I think not.

The main issue, which seems to escape these ‘womyn’ is that instead of supplying counterpoints, which prove Feminism’s usefulness, they are proving several things;

1.      That women with responsibilities can and will abuse them yet suffer no negative repercussions
2.    That any such deviations from acceptable behavior will not only be accepted but encouraged
3.     That the very freedoms which women now enjoy may encroach on the rest of society, therefore causing untold harm, yet won’t be opposed so long as women continue to ‘benefit’ in the short term
4.    That these benefits will be protected by any means necessary whether it be the massaging of statistics, using exceptions or ignoring very prevalent facts

However, the biggest thing womyn don’t understand is this; that their positions prove that the Manosphere’s beliefs on Feminism is 100% founded and that men are right to protect themselves against this “egalitarian” movement and speak out about it.

The one thing, which really has me shaking my head, is that I find their perceptions almost insulting. That they believe people do not have eyes or intelligence of their own to look into the world and see that the Feminist perception is false or simply the exception to the overwhelming rules of life. Anyone with eyes, especially the ‘Matrix Survivors” can see the gaping holes in their positions, yet they continue on as if their platforms are airtight and by repeating their mantra continually will somehow bring about it’s reality.

Ladies, we live on the same planet, and we can see what’s really going on, just an FYI. The more you try to snow us, the more we see Feminism, and you for what you really are. You have no statistics to prove the benefits of Feminism and more importantly, no information of value to DISprove the very real and ubiquitous claims made against it. Feminists try to spin and make their case, but all one has to do is virtually look out their window to the world and see the manipulation for what it is, and as time marches on, it becomes easier to see the huge toll Feminism takes on society. You womyn are doing exactly the polar opposite of what it is you wish to achieve and in the words of Joe Public’s “Live and Learn”

“The only fool that you are foolin’ is the fool that is you.”


Sunday, December 5, 2010

26 vs 35 ME!!!!

My Life;

I had posted this on the Spearhead once, but I want to revisit this in a little more detail now that I have a venue of my own. You see, allow me to venture back in time to when I was 26 years old.....

 So here I am, 26 years young, with an emergency fulltime job that I dropped into and a part-time job at a bar to help with the payments. In all honesty, I was making low 5 figures with my full time job, but I was making $360 each weekend at the bar. All in all, it wasn't too bad for an undiagnosed ADHD dude just flittering along in life with his parents.

However that was the deal, I was 26 years old and still living with my parents. Sure, at the bar I would catch some ladies giving me the eye, but where was I going to take them? Then the plan was set in motion; it was time for Omnipitron to get his own digs!!

I started buying things I needed, cutlery, plates, cooking pans and the like you name it. I did splurge and buy a ridiculously expensive cookware set (1800 CAD), but I wanted one that would last a good long time (still in use after 9 years too.)

I had to have a television, so I bought a 32-inch flat screen 'normal’ television, and a DVD home theatre with 6 speakers and a subwoofer. That purchase was roughly 1,000 CAD. I bought an entertainment center to house my electronics for roughly $200.

So, I needed some furniture, but I refused to go and buy brand new (now that the important stuff was purchased) because I, like most guys, just need something to function, Martha Stewart need not apply.

I spoke to a friend at the bar about my plans and lo and behold we could help each other out. She had a sectional couch that I could have for FREE so long as I took it out of her house. I did with my younger bro’s help, and there where bonuses, oh yes. A coffee table, and two chests of drawers also for the heavy duty price of free. From my friend I happened to grab a free table and chair set for my 'breakfast nook'. Ah, nothing better than free right?

Now I was in business.

So I move into my new digs with plenty of money to spare between my two jobs and with my tiny little Japanese Import, I was set. I didn't bother with cable as I watched movies or played games on my computer, and between my jobs, I didn't need too much anyway.

Now, here is where I want you to pay attention. I had met my soon to be wife actually 2 months before I moved out. We where only dating at the time so moving in with her was out of the question, however, soon I did. Before this happened, her washing machine broke, I replaced it (400 CAD).

I moved in with her and my furniture was disposed of or given away, we didn't need it.

We (meaning I) bought a new bedroom set and a new mattress, which of course isn't cheap ($800 CAD). As time went on, of course mostly I purchased a new couch and chair ($1,600 CAD).

As time went on my little Japanese car got far too small to cart the family around.  I also live in a relatively snowy area in Ontario so I made the choice to upgrade to a 4x4 pickup truck (do I need to state the price?).

We of course got married shortly after that, pretty standard affair, cost roughly $20,000 CAD.

As a Christmas gift, my wife got a surprise curio cabinet ($1000), which wasn't cheap. One of the kiddo's also got a new bedroom set, ($1,400) I went halfsies on that.

I was diagnosed with ADHD about 3 years ago, and sometimes, life could get hard. The company I work for has undergone some drastic (and sorely needed) culture changes since I started working there 11 years ago. Many a day I came home and simply wanted to hang it up due to the ever-increasing demands. I stick it out simply because that not many other options will pay the equivalent.

Then, Mrs. Omni and I realized the "Canadian" Dream, we bought a place of our own (well, we will once we buy it from the bank) but it sorely needed some renovations...thank heavens we bought a truck. It did save my ass many a time.

Soon, as the kids started to sprout, I realized that the cab of my truck was going to be too small for the future, what was my choice, of course, another truck with a bigger cab (more expensive than the last, okay?).

So, what is the point of all of this? Simple, at this stage of my life, I'm a 35 year old, married ‘homeowner’ with two dependants. What would have happened if I chose to remain single in terms of my financial outlay?

Would I have stayed in my apartment?


 In fact, I was thinking about DOWNgrading from my one bedroom into a bachelor, as there was more space than I really needed.

Would I have kept my tiny Japanese run-about?

Yup, much cheaper than two large V-8 trucks no?

Would I have bought all that furniture?

Nope, I already had some of it for years beforehand and I would have had no reason to get rid of it unless they broke. Most men are like this.

Would I have quit my 'demanding' job?    

Yup, I could work in a warehouse and still have paid my nominal bills.
Think about the taxes that a 35 year old me pays as opposed to 26 year old me? Property taxes, even sales taxes on things like gas, maintenance, and building supplies for our house. I make close to mid 5 figures now that I have been with the company so long, would that happen if I had decided to work in a warehouse or mass market retail? How much tax could Stephen Harper expect from me then? Didn't pay those in the apartment I can tell you that!!

I had to get my brakes done, a transmission flush, and an oil change on the import and it cost me $800, for my first truck all of that PLUS the diff fluid (it has two since it's a 4x4) and transfer case cost almost $2000.

Think about the money, which has been (and will continue) to be dumped into the economy simply due to deciding to enter into a monogamous relationship with a woman.

No, I'm not made of money nor is it some way to brag about what I've got, and I'll be the first to say that what I've done is nowhere near special, many men and even a few women make similar choices every single day.

The amazing thing I wish to point out is just how little a man can live off of when he decides to be single. Ladies, you have no idea of just how much a man takes on when he decides that you are ‘worth it’.

At the end of the day, with so many men choosing to remain single for longer, or chooses to remain single for the rest of his life, the contribution to the economy that is lost is phenomenal, whether women see this or not is irrelevant. It’s in everyone’s best interest for a man to marry; it supports the economy in ways that many don’t even fathom which maintains that thing we call civilization!!

Maybe…just maybe Hanna Rosin is wrong? Too bad many will realize this far too late. Keep this in mind men when women say that men contribute nothing to coupledom. Seriously, we contribute much more than we realize!!!!


Saturday, November 27, 2010

Words of truth from Dave Chapelle

Just thought I'd share this as Dave hit the nail on the head with this routine.

I've always had to shake my head when women argue with men over what it is that we men want in women. Literally, women can get this information straight from the horses mouth....and these ladies think they know more than we as men do?


As I had said on Dalrock's blog, 3 rules which can assist ladies when it comes to men's desires.

#1. You don't know more than the horse.

#2. You don't know more than the horse.

#3. Refer to rules one and two.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Ghosts from the Past…who had NO game :(

Just ruminating on some past ex girlfriends I had and the experiences, which have now been colored with my ‘new’ manosphere education gives me some new insight. When I was younger, I read up on all sorts of pop culture bullsh!t in order to keep the women in my life happy with me so that they would want to be with me.

It worked like a lead balloon…I know you are all surprised.

However, now that I have a few more years under my belt, some stark realizations have stood out to me. Damn, hindsight is 20/20 and I have to shake my head at the reality of how useful game is, and how education in women’s thought processes is crucial to men seeking monogamy. Heck, knowing how woman think can help a dude NOT get dumped if that is what they so choose.

Anyone who is familiar with the manosphere understands that women seek Alpha men, confident, no nonsense men who don’t take sh!t, namely a woman’s sh!t. They also want a man to bring home the bacon, to be able to take care of them over the long haul. Well, years ago I had one girlfriend (ex#1 for the sake of ease) who I won’t lie, was quite a bit different that I was. She was what we called a ‘Rock-On’ back in those days, as she was a hardcore fan of groups like Slayer, Svengali, and Def Leopard. Quite a departure for a black man huh, and yes, she was white. We had dated three different times over a span of about 10 years, the first as highschool juniors, and the last being about a year before I met my wife. I couldn’t figure out her behavior, as it seemed that she had this ‘now I want you, now I don’t’ sort of thing going on, but why was it that she always wanted to come back?

Now, I was knee deep in manginaness so I was at a loss as to why she would approach me, discuss a relationship…and then leave shortly after as I though I was being so nice to her (cough). The last time I saw ex#1, she was with a much older man, who looked like he had lived a very ‘hard’ life and was driving a very old Ford Tempo. While I considered myself a much better catch than this guy, there was no question that he took little to no sh!t in his life from anyone. I shook my head at the time, and wondered why on God’s Green Earth she would be so much ‘happier’ with a guy like that over me (because I won’t lie, she was hot) and what did I do wrong?

Now I know, ex#1 didn’t have much of a father in her life. She lived in an apartment that her mother paid for, but she was rarely ever there. For some reason, whatever reason, it seemed to me that ex#1 seemed to recognize that I would be supportive for the long haul…but my extreme beta-ness turned her off. I can think back to some situations which I now realize where sh!t tests, and I now realized that I failed them horribly. As for this latest bf, maybe this guy was an unsuccessful Alpha, but he was Alpha nonetheless and there was no mistaking it and of course, her being outspoken and strong willed, she needed someone to ‘take charge’.

Hmm, the lessons we learn huh?

As for Ex#2, she was my first (and last) black partner and a source of a good amount of education on women and how they think in retrospect. I met her when I was in my early 20’s and we where a couple for almost 6 years. We broke up just before I dated ex #1 and about a year before I met my wife. When we met, I was making decent money and I had no issue being the ‘money man’ to her and her brood (dumb I know…now). Well, hard times hit, and I went from being the ‘Money Man’ to the broke as @#$@ man. Guess who had to ‘man up’?

Guess what then happened to our relationship?

Looking back was I confident and took charge in changing my life? Nope, I did what a man who is supposed to be in charge ISN’T supposed to do. I shrank into a little ball of fear and repeatedly asked her not to leave me. After all I’ve read on the manosphere, I realize that this behavior repulsed her in ways that I cannot imagine. She was in her late 20’s at the time, and still had some relative Sexual Market Value left in her tank, which she decided to leverage in order to ‘trade up’. I was then left in the dirt, still reeling from the whole experience and once again wondering what it was that I had done wrong.

I had Beta’d my way out of a relationship, is what. I just had no clue at the time.

I remember reading a comment on about women, that if as a man, you lose your earning potential, you do have some time to reclaim it, but only so long and the clock is ticking.

If you don’t reclaim it in short order…it’s curtains for you my boy.

Do I hate my exes for what happened? I used to, but now I realize that they, like many other women, and even like me and all men on this planet, were simply following their biological imperatives. It was I who was approaching things the wrong way at the time, and these lessons serve to show me that what peeps are saying on the manosphere isn’t simply some bullsh!t that is meant to make men feel good about the current state of affairs. I would state that for any Beta man, learning game is crucial, and understanding the psychology of women is imperative if you seek any sort of relationship with them.

These women where simply following the patterns laid out by the likes of Roissy and at the time…so was I as a hapless Beta. I lived and learned with relatively little scarring, and one point I will stress, do not take what is said on the manosphere lightly, these where simply past relationships for me which I survived through which could help anyone willing to listen. If this where someone’s marriage, as a man the prognosis of the relationships dissolution may not be so painless and the effects on their life after the fact, not so short-lived.

Knowing is indeed half the battle.


Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Justin Beiber ‘drifts off’ during his tutoring.

I just read this today in a small paper in Ottawa Canada. It could be old, but it really doesn't matter at this point, I just can’t put into words about what I believe the ramifications are about something being said like this. Is this what’s going on now? That ADHD is simply a buzzword for how people are feeling about themselves? “I sometimes lose focus” now means you have ADHD?


This isn’t a joke dammit, there are people whom legitimately HAVE ADHD who wish they didn't. Between teachers passing ADHD ‘diagnoses’ to parents like they where Halloween Candy and then adults who dismiss it as simply a ‘state of mind’ and not a real problem, we have a real situation on our hands when it comes to legit peeps who wish they didn’t have this ‘disorder’ of attention and seek remedies in order to lead normal lives. One of the things which really gets me riled up are the people who don’t have ADHD who seem to think that the world is full of fools who haven’t the foggiest notion in terms of what this disorder entails.

Here is a tip, ADHD isn’t just for kids, they can and do grow up with it too, and your dismissive attitude is only making this young child’s experience worse.

Here are some websites, which may help people get a handle on this burgeoning issue and yes, I like to include both sides so that people know that I'm simply not a pill pusher. Trust me, I get no kickbacks from big pharma for this.

There is help out there, seek it out and use it.

I urge people to take this seriously, what I went through as I was growing up I don’t wish on any child, if these situations can be mitigated…please…PLEASE make it worth your time.  ADHD has several Cormorbid (read piggybacking) effects, which range from depression (been there, done that) to suicide (know some peeps who have flirted with this). ADHD is like a nuclear bomb to a teenager’s already low self-esteem and I can’t stress this enough. Always looking over your shoulder as you always are doing everything wrong no matter how much effort you put in. Everyone seems to catch on faster to new things while people have to explain, and then re-explain, and then re-explain once more to you…and you still don’t get it. Everyone seems to succeed so easily so you wonder what it is about you that you can’t seem to get anything done or to ever accomplish anything.

This is not a joke, I stress this seriously, we need to find a special shade of gray with this approach as not every child who can’t sit still has ADHD, but dismissal of symptoms also leads to issues. Every case is indeed unique and possibly medication may not even be required for a viable solution to be found. Some may be fine with some behavioral therapy, some may be fine with a counselor, but yes, and I am one of them, I benefit from my medication and I’m a moron with out it.

But that’s me.

Take the time; find out what the situation is if you or your child seems to display ADHD symptoms. I won’t lie, I was in denial for most of my life, I was only diagnosed three years ago and my life has gotten much better since taking action.  I credit my parents stern and strict parenting style from keeping me out of much more ridiculous trouble.

Get the facts; use common sense when listening to tripe like Beiber ‘drifting off’. This isn’t anywhere near as small an issue as a quick daydream during class. Trust me when I say that many wish it were.


Thursday, November 11, 2010


Been reading Dalrock’s blog again (damn that man for making so much sense) and also a recent thread on the Spearhead and I have a suggestion to all the men on the manosphere.

Since we know that large percentages of women tend to veer on the side of the illogical and will use the rationalization hamster overtime when dealing with certain topics in which they FEEL negative about, compromising the intergirty that they claim to have. That they are especially on par with men in terms of being rational while not being so, I think we have been approaching ‘debate’ in the wrong way. We realize that arguing with them is futile do to this childlike dismissal of fact which is right in front of their faces, then possibly another approach is the key.

Ignore them.

Folks, do we get into long serious conversations with our children over the workings of politics, construction, or other serious matters facing life? Usually we figure (correctly) that the inner workings are above their heads, yeah? However, some of us will find an exception, who grasps the intricacies of a topic and can hold their own in a debate or a conversation, thus they will prove, whatever the age they are at that they are worthy of our attention.

I can remember years ago when the building manager of a company I used to work for had brought his son with him to the office. This man was a very hands on type of guy and had extensive experience in construction, and the men who answered to him  also needed broad experience in order to hang. This man's son was no older than 11 and was conversing intelligently with his father on a project that needed to be done at one of the many stores his crew renovated and maintained shortly before they left to assist in it’s construction. I was flabbergasted that this young child knew so much and could hold his own so effectively, his experience belied his age and obviously this man had taught him well.

My point; simple, if they can hang, they will prove it once you converse with them, if they can’t, is there any reason to include them in any meaningful conversation from then on? Heck, when I renovate things in my house, I may get some great ideas from my kids sometimes, but do you really think I will sit down with them and converse how I’m going to tile my bathroom? Consider topics of even more weight, will you talk to your 14 year old about how you intend to plan for your retirement or get through this current economy? 

Get the picture?

Does one really want to put any sort of weight into the statements of someone who will disregard facts, which are staring them in the face, no matter how obvious it is? Should these people be taken seriously, once they prove they will disregard easily provable facts for their own personal gain? I really think men don’t realize just how important the fact of another man saying that they where wrong in an argument really and truly is. We don’t realize that when someone concedes a point once it’s veracity has been proven; their integrity has been upheld.  If you simply pretend it doesn’t exist, and defend your position that this is so, your integrity takes a bath, period. 

What does one think of someone that says that the Sun is a figment of your imagination and really believes it? Facetious yes, but you get the picture now don't you?

We will of course encounter some Chinstraps who can and do hold their own and these women are the ones we need to (and usually do) pay attention too as they prove their worth every time we give it, by intelligently arguing their position if they don't agree to it. All others need to be dismissed as the overgrown children that they really are. Let them speak, then continue on as if they didn’t say anything important, because usually speaking, they haven’t, just like a child.


Sunday, November 7, 2010


Just read a post on the Spearhead, which really is exciting to say the least in terms of Men’s Rights in Europe. Some MRA’s actually staged a meeting, in secret of course, a meeting of the minds as discussions of anti-feminism took place.

Well done guys, that took a lot of cojones and you pulled it off.

When I think about how Feminists try to use their political might to crush any male opposition to their oligarchy, I keep thinking of a storyline I had seen years ago on a television show I used to watch when I was younger. It was an animated show called Dragon Ball Z, and I personally find some aspects of this story interesting.

Here’s the sitch.

A very powerful alien called Frieza used to run a cartel, which sold planets to the highest bidder. He was a one-stop shop so to speak, as his minions (who followed him out of fear due to his unimaginable power) would invade a planet, kill ALL the inhabitants, and then return to Freiza letting him know that the planet was ‘ready for delivery’. Well, in his employ was a race known as Saiyans, usually these guys (and some girls) where the most effective of his soldiers.

Here is the deal with these Saiyans, they where among the most feared (if not THE most feared) aliens in the known galaxy. They where like modern day Spartans, they lived to fight, it was virtually part of their DNA. If they fought to victory, they would literally become stronger due to the effort. However…if they fought to defeat and survived…watch out, they would become ridiculously more powerful than if they had won.  No one knew what the upper limit to their power actually was, or if even one existed, not even the Saiyans themselves.

And this concerned Freiza and his other minions, quite a bit actually.

You see, he had enslaved their whole planet, using them among his other slaves to feed his business, but they where becoming too strong, too fast. Sure, he was vastly more powerful than any of them at the moment, but how long would it be before one of them became strong enough to challenge even him? Slaves don’t like being slaves for very long, this goes without saying and all a Saiyan resistance movement would have do is fight in secret, take time to heal and get stronger, and it would only be a matter of time before challengers emerged. Frieza did have control of their home planet, but one simply can’t keep an eye on such a vast amount of people all the time. After exterminating some of the immediate potential threats some of his Saiyan slaves presented, he decided that it would simply be safer to destroy the whole Saiyan planet of Vegeta, sparing only a handful of Saiyans who where off world and on ‘planet scouring missions’ at the time. That way he could keep an eye on them, making it far easier to exterminate them if they got too powerful.

However, it didn’t make a difference, of the survivors, one DID become strong enough, and Frieza is now sleeping with the fishes with Luca Brasi.

What’s the point?

Simple; you can bet your bottom dollar that Feminists DON’T want to release the power they have gained and any resistance men give is a definite threat to this. Due to the propaganda that is omni-present in the West, most men haven’t the foggiest clue as to just how much leverage we have over women naturally so most men (read: Betas) consider resistance to be futile, and believe that they are lucky to even GET a woman in the first place. However, the truth is that making things fairer for men by eliminating the biased family courts and divorce laws would squarely interfere with the Feminist Agenda and they would lose a boatload of the leverage they seek to further consolidate.

Men are like the Saiyans, and they ARE afraid of us.

This anti-feminist conference gives hope, and hope is a dangerous thing when one wants to maintain an autocracy. It make people consider that ‘If they can do it, why can’t we?’ and the momentum increases, the ‘resistance’ grows stronger as others begin to risk a little more and then a little more in order to achieve the goal of ending Feminism’s reign. This means that the word is getting out there, more men are realizing the truth behind the smoke a mirrors of Western Society, the more the word gets out, the more future male victims can avoid being raped in family courts and losing the connection to their children that they slave in order to provide for.

The truth is out there, go out and send it as far as you can safely, while not getting yourselves nicked in the process.

Good stuff my European Brothers; you have just broken the One Minute Mile so others are more apt do to the same.


Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Because I knew you’d appreciate it :)

Been reading Dalrock’s blog recently, very good reads there, his articles are very thought provoking which is the point of this post. He’s been talking about romance, spinsterhood and the like recently, which has really got the wheels turning in my head. You see, on a recent post about romance, I really got to thinking about men and women and what it is that we both need and want out of life and marriage.

Why do men (read; Beta men) romance women?

In the aggregate, because by doing things which make them happy, we score points with them, points which will hopefully give us an edge on the other males vying for their attention you see. At the end of the day, we are all animals throwing sh!t on the wall, just that nowadays, we do it in suits.

I was thinking about this one episode of Dr. Phil I had seen years ago and at first I had dismissed this woman simply as a cheater (which I do not think highly of for reasons I won’t get into here) and that was that. Then I had later seen the show once more and I was flabbergasted at what happened. Now understand, this woman had cheated on her husband and left the family, not good by any stretch of the imagination, but there was some things, which had happened beforehand, which I didn’t pay attention to.

You see, this woman, her name was Shani, wanted the attention of her husband, Jason.  Something women indeed crave in their marriages. Did this woman simply stamp her feet and whine; “Pay more attention to me?”

No, actually she didn’t.

Shani had decided that she didn’t want to guilt Jason’s affections, but she wanted him to legitimately want to pay more attention to her. So, she got her hands on some materials that taught her what it was that men wanted and liked from women and she then;

Sent racy pictures of herself to her husband

Offered to watch porn with him

Joined a gym

No joke…after I had learned a little more about how North American Women usually are, re-watching this episode made my jaw hit the floor. He didn’t ask her to do this…she did this of her OWN volition. C’mon, just how many women would go to all this effort in order to appease their husbands?


Then of course, the details about her life really floored me. What is the excuse that we hear so often from women who don’t do these things? That they would like to work out like Shani, but since they have careers, they don’t have the time.

She ran her own business.

Well, I guess they could find the time to put all this effort into their relationship, but kids take so much out of you and this woman obviously didn’t have any children.

Shani had not one…not two…but THREE children UNDER 10.


I want to make it perfectly clear that I don't advocate cheating whatsoever, it isn't a solution to problems in a relationship and the collateral damage in immense. However, let me fill you in on a little secret. During my most Beta (read; stupid) years, I learned whatever I could in order to understand women and their needs. I had even gone on a message board and read about people’s lives in turmoil and one thing popped out at me; that if you don’t MAKE the time to fulfill your partners needs, very bad things can happen. Convenience doesn’t make anything happen, you have to inconvenience yourself in order to do so!! The thing which really makes my head spin about the initial effort that Shani had put into her marriage, is that this is the SAME effort that women DEMAND from the men in their lives.

Take the time to learn about what it is that we want, as OUR wants are different from yours as a man, and this will make us happy.

I wish that where true, from what I and other men see in the media, women feel entitled to what a man gives them and therefore, they see no need to reciprocate at all. I get really hot under the collar about stuff like this because men don’t do things like take their partners out, buy them gifts, and write poems because it inherently makes them happy.

Not a chance.

They do it (if at all anymore) because of one reason and one alone…it will make the woman in their lives happy, and therefore, it will make them happy.

Yet, and this actually always makes me shake my head, one will see so many women who will never want to do anything for a man ONLY to make him happy. It’s too inconvenient. That if a woman wants to work out, she will be told NOT to do it for a man, or men, do it for themselves. I can even remember a comment on an advice columnist’s website in regards to a woman who used to dress up for her husband when they where intimate who couldn’t believe that she was doing ANYTHING for a man.


What are men told again? “I know that you don’t understand this, but taking me out, and buying me gifts, flowers, cards, shows me that you appreciate what I do for you. It makes me happy when you do.”

Right, but women are under NO obligation to reciprocate in any way shape or form. Then these women wonder why their husbands don’t want to put in very much effort anymore and scold and shame them for not doing so?

Good Grief!!

One of the things I had learned over the years, is that people seem to think that when you refuse or don’t put effort into something that your spouse finds important, that instead of scoring ‘points’ let’s say, that you only score a zero in that category. Not true. If you don’t put effort into this category let’s say, you’re not at zero, you are actually in negative numbers in terms of your relationship. Putting forth effort may get you +2 points, NOT putting in effort will score you –2 points, this is what people have to realize in terms of relationships.

One of the absolutely worst things you can do is have your spouse outline the things that you can do to rectify the situation, and then you ignore them as you got ‘too busy’ with other things. You wanna see ridiculous resentment build; just have your spouse go over and above for you and you simply take it, say “Thanks” and they go about your business, that’s a sure way to make sure that the wonderful treatment that you used to get stops, quick, fast, in a hurry as they realize that all the extra effort that they put in will not be reciprocated, but that you don’t give a damn that they are putting themselves out JUST to make YOU happy.

The thing which boggles my mind is that I understand that women are self centered, and that some would even say narcissistic, but even from a selfish point of view, if you LIKE how your hubby is treating you…why on God’s green Earth are you going to make sure that he gets the picture real quick that his efforts are pointless?

Try this little exercise on for size, I bet money that the average woman can’t name the 5 basic needs a man has to be happy in the aggregate. However, ask a man what he has to do in order to win a woman’s heart and he can tell you offhand. Something is rotten in Denmark my friends, and I personally think that if as a woman who is a wife, or girlfriend, that you shouldn’t have to do a thing to make your partner happy, then you need to shut your claptrap before you ask for a damn thing!!! Marriage is about compromise; it isn’t the ‘all about the woman show.’

I’m fully aware that there are quite a few men who don’t fulfill their wives needs, let’s be honest, men aren’t perfect, but I can tell you because I have been through it that there are many women who think that they are the cat’s meow and if the genders where reversed, the females would have a heyday pillorying this person. The reason why I’m so hard on women in this case, is that after reading all I did on how to make a woman happy, and what a spouse has to do in order to make time and fulfill their partner’s needs, I was shocked to find out that women usually fall horrifically short in the very same demands that they make on their own partners.

It’s a two way street, remember.


Monday, November 1, 2010

SERIOUSLY???? No wait.....SERIOUSLY???

Okay, just had to post something a little light hearted that I happened across just recently. 

Went to the LCBO which is where Ontarians go to by some 'juice' and I noticed something strange.  There was a car in-front of me which hadn't moved which had two female passengers sharing a cigarette. 

Nothing out of the ordinary, I backed in my truck and then looked up as I pulled out my wallet and keys as I set out on my adventure...and noticed that one of the girls must have had a very stressful day...that she was taking a very long drag on her cigarette that her friend gave her...very long.


So...(snicker)...I jump out of my truck considering the curious situation that happened when the driver jumps out of the car and walks into the LCBO ahead of me. She gives me a look which suggests that she knows that I know that she knows that I know.

I shake my head and figure that I should follow my nose just like Toucan Sam.


She had already left the little vestibule in the store and I can tell you, if you where born without a nose, it wouldn't have made a all!! Listen...when I was younger, I used to puff, but dammit, do you really think I would engage in a busy parking lot, in the middle of the day.....where people could see....and SMELL what I was doing??

I have ADHD, and I'm not the brightest bulb in the hallway, but GODDAMN!!

I was fighting laughter as I walked in and bought my stuff, as I left the aisle where my coolers where, this girl passed me once more, giving me yet another knowing look.

Girl, you busted!!! Why are you even trying to act innocent?

She made sure that she hit a cashier that was far away from me and I was fighting to keep myself in check...thank GOD I medicated myself today or else things could have been much worse.

Okay, am I against Mary Jane? As I said, I smoked when I was younger, I chose to stop, and I know that others do what they are going to do, period. Nothing I will say is going to change that HOWEVER, use your FREAKIN COMMON SENSE DAMMIT or else we elders are going to laugh our @$$es off at you, kewl?

C'mon...I am black after all...dammit!!!


Friday, October 29, 2010

They Want To Be Men!!! Part One

I had always wondered something; why does the Feminist version of North American History sound like it took place on a sharecropper’s farm at the end of a whip?  Why do they earnestly speak about how unfair and oppressive our unfeeling male ancestors where when these same men worked themselves to the bone in dangerous and inhospitable occupations to provide for them? Why is it that women seem to want to get a leg up on men in as many arena’s possible as if they had a hate on for us? They scream for equality yet have no issue pillorying men and taking as many freedoms away from us as they can muster while at the same time consolidating their position.

Why do women seem to get so butt-hurt at a man’s mentioning about his preference for a woman’s appearance, or any choice whatsoever in terms of mating practices and choices on his part? Take this article right here, there apparently was such an outcry from the female contingent about a successful man NOT choosing an independent career woman as his wife that another article was written in response, but it was simply a rewording of the original, switching the genders around. Why did women get so upset by this article, as men we know that Michael Noer had some damn good points.


Well, it was just after I had read The Misandry Bubble by our dear friend the futurist that things began to fit together somewhat and make a little bit more sense to me.  Here is the deal; I had remembered something that my sister had said years ago in terms of women and feminism. She had told me that Feminists wanted to be men, and I have to say it didn’t make too much sense to me at the time. Sure they wanted some of the ‘power’ men held and wanted to follow in our footsteps. Women gained education, political power, and access to arenas previously owned by men alone. This made sense, but my sister had meant more than this, talking about some of the very freedoms we men take for granted. She spoke about women wanting to have the autonomy to act virtually like a man in all situations. As an example, she even spoke about women wanting the choice of taking a man she JUST met to her place, leading him on in terms of where things where going, and then stopping the action by simply changing her mind right before taking the plunge sort to speak.

Listen, while I don’t think rape is good whatsoever, taking a dude that you don’t even know far from the public eye, letting things get hot and heavy and then stopping one base from home may anger some guys of the wrong sort and ugly things could result.  It doesn’t matter if 9 out of 10 guys would leave in a huff, all it takes is one jack-@$$ to change your life forever. At the time, I didn’t consider the ramifications of what my sister meant.

Now I think I do.

Feminism isn’t about equality, nah, it’s about women finally gaining some control on men and actually, gaining leverage over men as much as possible. Why you ask, because just through our natural attributes unique to each gender, men have a boatload of leverage over women.

And they positively hate that about us.

Anyone who has been on the manosphere for even a short amount of time realizes the nature of the pact between the genders. Man has resources, a woman has fertility, and together they trade these assets and raise a family, right? Well, the issue IMO is that we men have forever looked at this situation from only a male perspective and then we shake our heads at the evident rancor women seem to have in regards to our roles in this situation. The key is to look at it from a woman’s perspective, which may possibly shed some light on their apparent motivations.

Initial Market Value
Let me ask you one question, gentlemen, how comfortable would you be if when you married a woman while you where both in your early to mid 20’s, let’s say for the sake of argument, she’s a 6.5 BUT, as she got older, she got more attractive instead of the opposite? In essence, by the time you both are 40, you are now married to a legitimate 8, sound like fun?

Many guys would be really stoked about this turn of events, however now I’m going to ask you another question, what if at the same time, there was a biological issue which afflicted only men, a low level dementia which reduced our mental acuity as we got older and therefore, it would only be a matter of time before the high paying occupations we used to be able to perform would have to be given up for easier and less demanding (and thus less profitable) employment, or leave the working world entirely. Sure there are things which can be done like playing Sudoku or other mental exercises and/or diet changes which can have a positive affect on our declining mental states. However, all these do is slow the inevitable decline, nothing can stop it or reverse it for that matter. Over time, you will have to watch as younger more able men are giving your ever increasingly attractive wife the eye and you have no real means of defense available to you, other than making a boatload of bread when you where younger and more capable and being a ‘good little boy’ when you where younger, hoping that she will return the favor to you when your situations change.

Still sound like fun?

Us guys would have to make sure we really thought long and hard about what type of woman to settle down with as our youth is the time when we have the best chance of landing a good woman, not just for now, but for years to come, and then hope that when the sun sets on our skills that the ladies in our lives don’t trade us up for a younger and better model.

Stressful yes? Sort of changes the game a little now doesn’t it?

That’s the point, as men we don’t realize it, as these issues aren’t ones we will ever face so we don’t have to plan for it or even consider it, but the vast majority of women face this very sobering reality eventually. Since a man’s most valuable asset to a woman is based on his performance, he is at a clear advantage in this scenario. Performance is something he can improve upon over time, a man can LEARN Game, he can LEARN how to improve his self-esteem, he can LEARN how to invest, and he can LEARN a new trade or occupation. Heck, if all else fails he can start a business and become successful there if he so chooses. Men can refine the skill sets they already have and bolster up their market value, improving it, as they get older, no matter if their physical attributes are now beginning to atrophy. Then when they do become employed, if they are at least halfway ambitious, they should make more money as their experience and body of knowledge increases. Think about the song ‘Rockstar by Nickleback. That song was about not liking one’s current situation in life and then CHOOSING to change it and what could be done in order to do so, or what one wanted out of life. For men, this is simply one of the many options we have available to us.

Women, on the other hand, have no such power or choice in their lives over men.

Sure, between 15 and 25, thy have oodles of leverage which some (a shrinking demographic to be sure) decide to use to their advantage, understanding it’s slippery and short lived nature, but a good portion don’t, especially now. Sure women can improve upon it with a good diet, exercise, and even plastic surgery, but these things only improve upon the genetics they have already been bestowed at birth. In other words, a woman’s already short-lived market value is ALSO capped by her heredity and she has no say in that whatsoever. The dice where rolled when she was conceived, and she can improve it, but only to a certain point. Therefore some women’s station in life in terms of what sort of man she can even attract has already been decided before she even set eyes on one in the first place.

Check this; years ago my best bud in high school was single and had a FWB during a ‘dry spell’. While he was able to keep things out of the emotional range, his FWB was starting to develop feelings for him. Well, after about 3 months, he then started to date a new girl and the benefits where ‘no longer required’ as it where, and she didn’t take this too well (surprise, surprise). You should have seen the look on this girl’s face when she had finally laid eyes on her competitor for my bud’s affections. My bud’s new girl was a solid 7.5; his former FWB was no more than a 5 at best. She was outclassed and she knew it, she left the scene very angry at something, I knew what it was but I didn’t want to comment on the obvious. She was beaten, and there was nothing she could do to bring up her own market value in order to compete in this situation. 

 She was out of the race before it even began in all honesty. This fact also came up with yet another female friend whenever we went to the bar. I happened to be dating a girl at the time who was much better looking than my best bud’s current girlfriend (different girl than the one he was dating above). She actually came right out and told me one day that she didn't like going to the bar when my gf was around because she stole the spotlight from her. Same reason as before, while my bud’s gf wasn’t ugly to be sure, my gf at the time was easily better looking than her and did command much more male attention than she ever could.

Sucks competing with someone out of your league huh?

Let me put it to you like this; ever hear of this guy? He was a bum, living on the street at one point in time, and then, he joined up with a friend and founded Paul Mitchell Systems, a multi million dollar hair care line. He went from not being able to offer even the lowliest of women anything in terms of his market value, and then went on to being someone who most would consider a stud, right? BTW, after founding this business, and becoming successful, thus increasing his market value, guess what type of woman he was able to attract and then later marry?

Do women have that sort of turnaround available to them?

Nope, and that’s why they get so upset when we men make references to a female’s appearance and how much it means to us. Women aren’t stupid, they have at least an inkling as to how the world works, and they know that their ace in the hole comes with an expiry date, which comes all too quickly even for the most genetically gifted.  They have no real means to improve it before it’s gone, and certainly not after. Even if a woman decides to beat a man at his own game and becomes a pillar of industry, because men have no use for another breadwinner, this woman still has nothing to offer men. She will still be judged by what it is that men want from women, on her appearance and youth, which of course leads to her sexuality, and therefore her fertility. This may be why women want to dispose of ‘gender roles’ as their assigned ‘role’ from nature is far too confining while a man’s is almost infinite in terms of expandability.

Picture it, a seminar is held amongst professionals and a group of 6 older and established singles start to talk shop. All these professional people are in their 40’s and trading business ideas, but here is the sitch. Half are women, the other half men. Even if these women where sharper, and more educated than their male counterparts, they offer nothing to these men that they can’t get somewhere else. More importantly, as far as men are concerned, they will be able to get a BETTER deal than these women are offering as they will be able to score younger women with their expanded wealth and influence. Remember peeps, that even if these ladies are Cougars extraordinaire, youth is still something men find attractive and will gravitate to given the chance, and men will have MANY chances, just ask Demi Moore about this situation.

While there are indeed some successful childless women out there who are married, I bet that there are some very furious women that are frustrated that what they look for in a man in terms of his success, doesn’t translate well for them and are upset that men don’t look for the very same thing in women. Men don’t need another breadwinner in their lives in the aggregate, sorry ladies, just another case of assuming men think exactly like women, you have to understand...we don’t.

Solipsism is a hell of a drug.

Can you see why women are so p!ssed at men and our ‘power’ over them? That they only thing which seems to matter and give them leverage over us ‘big bad’ men is something that they hold sway over for only a 7th of their lives? This could be the reason why they chafe under our ‘preoccupation’ with their appearance so much. See how much leverage men have over women even here? Do you consider that this is the reason why women shame the living bejeezus out of men for our preferences for younger women? That they will clamor on and on about what’s ‘inside’ and how it counts for more than the outside? Could it be the ONLY defense they have in this regard?

Sure relationships are based on women’s choice, I grant that, however, consider all the work women do to even be considered by men so that they can be in the position to choose. Historically, they have to dress a certain way, as not to suggest they are loose, they have to save themselves for marriage as marrying men consider high mileage women to be poor partners and of course we have just discussed the value of appearance and fertility. Quite a bit of leverage we have don’t we? Of course now men are shamed into accepting a woman’s suppressed sexuality so they are free to do as they please, but women are only revolting currently (and in times past) due to the many constraints male nature placed upon them of which women had no choice but to obey, or watch the train leave without them.

Trust me, this p!ssed them off royal and they wanted a piece of the action trying to outdo us.

And this is only the beginning; most men, well Beta men, haven’t the foggiest idea as to how much power we actually have over women, and why feminism is trying to equalize something which simply cannot be balanced in the way that they would like. Alpha males seem to know or have an inkling about this situation inherently which is why they don't give a rip about a woman's opinion about them, while Beta's are willing to trade so much just for regular sex. It only get's more interesting from here.

Up next, marriage and the Bigger Better Deal.